Expert: Terry B - 12/11/2008

Question
I am a 20 year-old-girl and 4 months ago my boy friend tried to have sex with me. I refused him to do that and he told me to suck his penis to release his emotion. So I've sucked his penis and after that the white fluid ( male sperm ) are come out from his penis and entered my mouth. I tried to spit out and clean my mouth with water only as soon as it entered my mouth. The question is " could it cause me AIDS disease? "

Answer
Dear Chaw:

Peace and all good things to you.  First, congratulations on asserting yourself and being in control of your body and relationship - up to a point.  While all relationships involve some degree of compromise, being asked instead of "told" seems important, and he would have survived had you not performed oral sex on him.  Yes, sucking his penis is considered "sex" - even though you refused intercourse.  It would be worth a visit to a clinic to be tested for Sexually Transmitted Infections because you have a potential exposure, and also because it would give you opportunity to talk openly with someone about sexual risk, relationships, and how to reduce your risk.  More information at www.thebody.com or www.avert.org for you to review.

Specifically regarding your incident, as noted above it is a risk, but statistically a small one.  Blood, semen, vaginal secretions and breast milk are the fluids that transmit HIV - the virus that causes AIDS.  You describe one exposure - and oral sex is a lower risk than vaginal or anal intercourse - but it is one exposure.  While your risk is lower than it might have been, please take charge of your health and sexual behavior and research a bit online, visit a clinic to learn your baseline status, and as importantly, discuss risk and how to avoid it.

Best to you and yours,

Terry