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I recently have started dating a guy, we have been seeing eachother for about 3 months, we both agree sex should wait until marriage, we do however get hot and heavy with the kissing and petting. I was feeling pretty good about this until one night when brushing I noticed my gums bleeding, this doesn't usually happen to me and I don't have gum disease. I thought back a few nights and remembered we both brushed about 30 minutes before our deep kissing which lasted a couple hours.
I don't know if his gums where bleeding, and I don't remember mine bleeding at that time.
I did some online research and found that a man did transmit hiv to his wife via bleeding gums, but I am not able to find any statistics on it like I have been able to on other forms of exposure.
Assuming my new guy has hiv and did have bleeding gums and I did to what are the odds?
I have talked openly to him about STDs, and assuming he is being honest with me I know his history, but I know to confirm anything he needs to be tested. In the meantime I want to know how worried I should be.
I haven't been feeling good about 4-5 days after the brushing then kissing thing. Sore throat, tongue feels weird, tired, that sort of thing.
Thanks!!
Hi ,
Well, yes there is a possibility of transmitting HIV through bleeding gum, but for that you need to have open wound or cuts inside you mouth so that blood can transmute and the virus can spread. But as you assured that is not the case.
The symptoms you have describe can be the result of "deep kissing which lasted a couple hours ", probably your partner have some sort of gum disease and poor oral hygiene. and that infection has been passed on you. I am certain that is the case for you. You better see a dentist for Sore throat, tongue feels weird, tire. This are quite common case for viral infection caused by kissing.
So please do not worry about HIV, As revealed by CDC, There are no reported cases of people being infected through saliva. Researchers have found a protein in saliva that keeps the virus from infecting white blood cells.
I believe you partner have some oral problem, that all...
Just relax...and stay well... you are not getting HIV....just see a dentist.
Regards,
Gorkey
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Gorkey Gourab
Expertise
Social and behavioral issues related to HIV transmission, sexually transmitted infections, Human Rights issues, rights of marginalized populations, gender and sexuality, research design and analysis related social & behavioral issues, , computer assisted qualitative data analysis and data management (using ATLAS.ti, ANTHROPAC, NVivo 8)
Experience
Specialized in Medical Anthropology. Working on Social and behavioral studies related to HIV transmission as well as Human Rights issues. Specialization in gender, sexuality, masculinity, behavioral studies related to HIV transmission. Qualitative research, programmatic and M&E experience with MSM, hijra (TG), indigenous groups, female sex workers for more than 7 years.
Organizations
International Center for Diarrhoeal Disease Research, Bangladesh (icddr,b) as Manager - M&E (Qualitative) with Center for HIV and AIDS
Publications
International peer-reviewed journals & technical papers: (1) Khan, S. I., Hussain, M. I., Parveen, S., Bhuiyan, M. I., Gourab, G., & Bhuiya, A. (2009). Living on the extreme margin: Social exclusion of the hijra in Bangladesh. Journal of health, population and nutrition. (2) Khan, S. I., Hussain, M. I., Gourab, G., Parveen, S., Bhuiyan, M. I., & Sikder, J. (2008). Not to stigmatize but to humanize sexual lives of the transgender (hijra): condom chat in the AIDS era. Journal of LGBT Health Research (Special issue: issues on male sexual behaviors and HIV risk in South Asia). Working papers: (1) Khan, S. I., Gourab, G., Ahmed, T., Sarker, G. F., Chowdhury, F. K., Ghosh, S., et al. (2009). Understanding the operational dynamics and possible HIV interventions for residence-based female sex workers in two divisional cities in Bangladesh. Dhaka, Bangladesh: NASP, Save the Children USA and icddr,b. Presentations in scientific meetings and conferences: (1) Khan, S. I., Hussain, M. I., Gourab, G. & Azim, T. (2011, 16 March 2011). Use of a new approach to count and access diverse groups of hijra for scaling up HIV-preventions services in Bangladesh. Poster presented at the 13th Annual Scientific Conference (ASCON XIII), Dhaka. (2) Khan, S. I., Pasa, K., Gourab, G., & Islam, A. (2007). Indigenous populations of Bangladesh: Living with risks and vulnerabilities to STIs/HIV. 8th International Congress on AIDS in Asia and the Pacific (ICAAP). Colombo, Sri Lanka.
Education/Credentials
MSS (Anthropology), University of Rajshahi, Bangladesh
Awards and Honors
The Vanderbilt-UAB Fogarty International Center AIDS International Training and Research Program (AITRP)Scholarship for the training on HIV-AIDS related qualitative data analysis and manuscript writing (Center for Global Health, Vanderbilt University, Nashville, TN, USA)
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