Expert: Terry B - 11/5/2007

Question
im 15 years old i had oral sex from a prostitue who has hiv for 5 years, i did not know that after i was done getting a insertive fellatio from that girl who has hiv i went to the bathroom right away i washed my dick off and urinated i did not see any blood on me, i dont want to tell my parents they are going to get very upset with me i did not know that you can get hiv from insertive fellatio please doc help me i been really worried its been a month since that incident i recently found out that she has hiv for 5 years i dont want to die im only 15
i have dirreha problem i piss alot
i have irritation on my body mostly my head where i have to scratch alot
i have kinda of a soar throat wich goes away from time to time maybe cause its cold outside
my hand shakes my left hand shakes alot
i tend to forget things now or maybe i think i do but i dont really.
i am scared can you plz plz plz answer my question's i need your help doctor.
my parents would be really upset i dont want to tell them
im only 15 theyll be really upset i will never do this mistake ever ever ever again
what is the chance of me getting hiv?
do you think i have hiv?
i heard that there has to be alot of blood concentrated so you might see visible on your dick since i saw no blood am i going to be ok?
i am 101% sure i had no cuts on my dick does that mean i wont get it?
is it true that theres never been a documented case of somebody getting hiv through insertive fellatio?
all i did was insertive fellatio plz message me back soon

Answer
Dear Umair:

Peace.  Take a deep breath and relax a bit.  The chances of your having contracted HIV from receiving oral sex are very, very low.  Depending on where you are, you may be able to access a testing clinic, and some of these do not require that you provide your name; in this country they deal with people your age quite often and can help with counseling and testing.

I am not a physician but have studied and worked in both HIV and mental health.  Some of your symptoms may be due to the stress and worry - going to a testing center and talking with a counselor should help.

I wish you the very best and encourage you to talk with a counselor and be tested for your own peace of mind.  I would also share, as a parent, that there will be many things as you are growing up that may upset you parents; consider telling them anyway.  They are your strongest advocates and can help if you let them in on your struggles.

The very best to you and your family.

Sincerely,

Terry