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Expert: - 10/17/2008


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Hi!

I've got a problem and I don't know how to solve it. I had an abortion already more than a year ago. What happened was that a couple of months after that my husband's sister got pregnant and gave birth to a girl this April. My problem is that I can't hear/speak/see or bear anything connected with this child. It is not a healthy situation because finally she is my husband's niece but we try to avoid mentioning her at all. He wanted to go to be present at her birth but I got into such hysterics when he said this that he didn't go. When we went to visit them this summer he wanted to buy some clothes/toys and again it made me crazy think of him buying baby's stuff so he didn't buy anything. He didn't even hold this girl or play with her during our stay though I know he wanted but it makes me completely crazy to think he would. I know it's wrong of me but I just can't help it. To think that he's so happy about his niece when he never was about our baby - even if we could not keep it. Of course I didn't expect him to be happy - but at least he could have shown some feelings instead of saying there was no baby there at all yet. I don't know if I have explained the situation clearly but if you could advise something I would really appreciate it.

Thank you.

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You and your husband need some counseling together and separately.
I can help you with post abortion counseling by email or I can send you some healing literature. What feelings do you have from the abortion? What did you mean "you could not keep the baby"? Please email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com and we can talk more. Please put ALLEXPERTS in the subject line.

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Please email me at CHERYL51@aol.com if I am "maxed out" on questions. I will answer as soon as I can. Please be patient because I get many emails. If I don't answer within a reasonable time, please email me again and put ALLEXPERTS in the subject line of your email. Thanks. Please contact me if you would like information about abortion procedures. What are your questions or concerns about an abortion? I also would be able to help with resources and networking. I can provide insight about emotional and psychological aspects of abortion. I would like to help you with up-to-date info and advice. I haven't had an abortion myself, but have 3 close friends who have experienced abortion and I can relate through them. I can also provide resources if you have experienced any post-abortion problems; medical, psychological, emotional, or spiritual. PRIVATE QUESTIONS ARE WELCOME!

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I have almost 23 years of experience in counseling women in unexpected pregnancy situations. I also provide resources for PASS (Post Abortion Stress Syndrome).

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Illinois Valley Community College (LaSalle-Peru, Illinois), Austin Community College and Travel Agent Degree.
Almost 22 years of on-the-job training onsite at abortion clinics and volunteering at pregnancy resource centers. Sonogram training and Post Abortion Counseling Training. Have done research with hundreds of women for almost 23 years regarding abortion, pregnancy and post-abortion healing.

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