Expert: Diane Cheryl - 7/8/2008

Question
In November of this past year, my boyfriend forced me to have an abortion.  He got very abusive as well.  I remember him throwing me against the wall, threatening me.  I remember him kidnapping me the nite prior, and ripping me out of the car and threatening me that I better "get rid of it."
I NEVER wanted that abortion. My choice was STOLEN from me.
I always have on my mind, my baby and what could have been.  As of now, I would have given birth, and all I can think about is that I would have a baby in my arms right now if it was not for that selfish "man."
And the words he said to me, just echo. I told him there was NO WAY I was getting an abortion, all he said was "Why are you doing this to me, why are you ruining my life?" and other awful things.
After the procedure, I was told to "get over it" and it "was not a baby."
He refused to pay for aftercare as well. The awfulness of this story does continue, but I will stop here.
What I need to know is, will I be able to have a baby ever again?
I fear SO MUCH, that because I had an abortion, that I will never be able to have a baby again. I have also been told this as well. I have been told that I have lost my chance.
I hope this is not true. I have no idea what I would do if I were not able to have a baby, all because of a selfish and forced decision.
Also, why can I not cope with this? Why can I not stop thinking about it? Is this normal?
Some help, please.
Additional details: I do get my period regularly.

Answer
Hi Karen,

First of all, I would like to converse with you privately so email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com. For now, I will ask you if you are still with this guy, because if so, you need to separate from him and I hope you are not considering having a baby with him. I will not say that you cannot have a baby. Sometimes this happens from abortion but it is not for sure. There are many women who are in the same situation as you and have received hope for the future. Please email me and remember, you can have hope and healing.

Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl