Expert: Diane Cheryl - 8/1/2008

Question
I have had 2 6 week abortions in my early twenties. 1 ectopic pregnancy and another abortion of 12 weeks when i was 26. I am now 28 and a I am 11 weeks this time I wanted the pregnancy the father and I discussed marriage and made plans to move in together, but now he has decided that he cant be around and will only pay when the kid arrives. I would like to keep it but the idea of raising a kid that does not  have a active father fears me and so does getting an abortion again. I'm scared since I have had some that medically I wont be able to get pregnant again. I need medical advice of how much of a chance am i taking if I abort this baby.

Answer
Hi C.T.

Thanks for your question. I'm not a medical doctor but even a medical doctor could not reliably tell you how much of a chance you can get pregnant again. If I were you, I would not take this chance. I, personally raised my daughter from the age of 1 to 16 with no husband.
It can be done and I know other women who have also. I would recommend that you join the yahoo group for unplanned Pregnancies. You will get advice and support there and can share your fears and thoughts. To join, go to http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnnacy_help/
There is also a board at http://www.voy.com/66018/ but it's not as active but you could probably get some support there as well. Also, please email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com and we can talk more there too. I know many women I can put you in touch with. Women who have had abortion and women who raised a child by themselves. Hope to hear from you soon. You can do it!

Diane Cheryl