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About Pat G
Expertise
I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of six. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues.
Experience
I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.
Education/Credentials
I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.
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Expert: Pat G - 11/5/2009
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What's the longest you can wair to have an abortion
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Hello, savo,
A woman should never have an abortion. It is too dangerous and can kill her. And a later abortion is more dangerous than an earlier one. I have books full of information about complications. Some are immediate and cause serious harm. If the abortion doesn't kill a woman, it could leave her disabled. Abortion threatens the health of her future children, who can be born with significant birth defects. It can also make a woman sterile, or unable to carry a baby to term. Extreme prematurity is a serious problem. Abortion can also greatly increase the likelihood a woman will get breast cancer while she is still young, and this form kills 1/4 of its victims. For some of the more recently developed methods of abortion, we don't even know the long term effects. We do know that women can bleed to death, or develop an infection that can kill within hours. Sometimes when a woman has a pill abortion, it doesn't even work, and she will be exposed to the risks not only from the pill abortion, but the surgical abortion she will require to complete it. There is only a very narrow window when a pill abortion will even cause loss of the baby.
There are two common reasons why women tend to ask this question.
One is that she doesn't really want an abortion, and she is delaying making a decision. If a woman isn't absolutely certain she wants an abortion, she's better off not having one, the medical problems aside. Among other things, the emotional repercussions can be severe as well, and can lead to her death in the year following. A common cause of death after abortion is suicide. Also, homicide, drug abuse, and car accident add to the death toll. In a recently released study, 85% of women who had an abortion reported emotional problems. Women are often coerced into having an abortion. About 64% of women reported coercion. So the woman isn't even making the decision. 90% report that if they weren't coerced or lied to, they wouldn't even have an abortion. Counseling prior to abortion is virtually nonexistent, and 90% also report not receiving counseling. Counseling, if it occurs, usually tries to convince a woman that abortion is the easiest decision, and any other decision would simply be too tough to deal with. These people lose money if a woman chooses something else.
The other reason is that the woman doesn't want an abortion and she is hoping that if she keeps her pregnancy a secret until after some particular date, people can't force her to have one. In the United States, many people don't know that abortion is legal throughout pregnancy, and if it so happens that someone who wants to coerce the woman knows this, he will force her to have an abortion anyway. The only advantage is that once a woman is further along, finding an abortionist willing to do an abortion is much harder, and much more expensive, and may involve significant travel expenses, so it's easier for a woman to refuse to have an abortion in that case.
In addition to all of this, a person willing to do an abortion on a woman really doesn't care about her health. This results in carelessness, unsanitary conditions, all the things the nightmare of back-alley abortions entail, but worse because he's not afraid of being caught. I would never go to a doctor who even believes in abortion. As a result, several of the lives of family members were saved, by the way. I did have an encounter with a man who does abortions, but I didn't even know who he was. I am so thankful I refused to let him touch me.
One more thing: a woman should never even think about abortion if her pregnancy isn't viable. About 1/4 of women have a miscarriage anyway. A doctor can do tests to see if this is a possibility.
If you are considering abortion and you concerned either about postponing the decision because you're not sure, or because you fear you will be coerced, then you should get some help. There are organizations that will help you, and protect your right to refuse to have an abortion. They provide true counseling, help with medical and financial issues, furniture, clothing and supplies for a baby, and adoption help. They can advocate for you against anyone who is trying to coerce you.
You can find an organization near you by going here: http://www.pregnancycenters.org/
Let me know what is on your mind. I will be here for you. I won't encourage you to hurt yourself, but I will be happy to talk to you about any issues you may have. If you wrote on behalf of yourself, please stay safe. Don't risk your life. If you wrote on behalf of someone else, please don't encourage that woman in any way. If she got hurt, you'd never forgive yourself. Take care.
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