Expert: Diane Cheryl - 12/3/2009

Question
Hi I am 23 years old and I have had an abortion within the last year- prob about 9 months ago... I'm pregnant again! by complete accident. I feel ashamed to get another abortion but there is no room in my life for a baby right now!! I was just wondering if the amount of abortions I have will effect my ability to get pregnant down the line when I am ready. I'm very worried!! Help! Thank You!

Answer
Hi Manda,

Thanks for your question. I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I would advise you not to have another abortion. Are you having any side effects from the first? Emotionally, spiritually or physically? I have worked with women for over 20 years now and most women regret an abortion down the line. Also, I have seen studies and testimonies from women that sometimes it does affect fertility. I would hate to see you suffer any problems from a 2nd abortion. Do you see any way that you could have your baby and place with a loving family (temporarily or permanently)? You could have your baby and then decide at that point. I have a good friend who was adopted and now in her 30's and happy to have been given life.

So, you can email me at CHERYL51@aol.com and we can talk more. Or you could join our unplanned pregnancy group and talk there. Whatever you like. The group is
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
Another option to get an opinion is http://www.optionline.org or call 1-800-395-HELP.
I really hope to hear from you soon. Really think about this 2nd abortion. I don't know if you have any religious beliefs but maybe God is trying to tell you something. Write me soon!

Diane Cheryl