AboutPat G Expertise I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of six. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues.
Experience I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.
Education/Credentials I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.
Question I had an Abortion performed on June 4th i stayed awake for this. I was bleeding a lot after...i was in so much pain one day when i checked my pad chunks of blood were slipping out of me maybe a handful or more..is this normal??...i heard breast milk is normal but how long will it last?.....my husband did not know i had this done. I usual take birth control pills but stopped because i was pregnant.i haven't started back on them as yet. While playing around he entered me just all the way in once and never reentered but i am worried about being pregnant again is this possible? He usual has a lot of precum and that's what i am so worried about.One last question i stopped bleeding for a about a week but now i am starting up again is this okay?
Answer Hello, Ladonna,
Abortions are dangerous and they cause a major disruption in a woman's body. It cannot be said that anything that happens afterwards is "normal".
This sounds abnormal enough that I think you should see a doctor. Don't go to whoever provided the abortion. Find someone else.
Yes, precum can get a woman pregnant.
Why do you want an abortion, given that you are married? It is perfectly acceptable to have a baby when you're married. I'm guessing your husband would not want you to have an abortion. If he has any sense, he won't want you to take this chance. Abortion can kill you or render you seriously disabled. Sooner or later he will probably find out. Then what? Having an abortion to keep the fact you are pregnant from someone is never a good idea. What if he ended up having to go down and identify your body? What if you suffered serious consequences?
Find an organization that will help you with the problems you are facing. They can recommend a doctor. They can also give you some counseling.
You didn't say how far along you were. Also, evidently you are not familiar with how to tell when you are fertile. You can learn to do this, and this web site will give you some information:
