AboutPat G Expertise I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of six. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues.
Experience I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.
Education/Credentials I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.
Question I had a Medical abortion, (pills) 5 weeks and 1 day ago. Since then I have had a brown discharge. Worse after sex. We have had unprotected sex, (meaning him pulling out and mostly condoms) since one week after the abortion, but mostly condoms and Always him "pulling out."
I took a pregnancy test and it is positive. I have taken several and they all say positive.
What does this discharge mean?
What does the positive result mean? Can it still be from the abortion from 5 full weeks ago?
I am praying that we are not pregnant again, as I am planning on calling off our engagement. This is a very difficult time.
I just have no idea what is going on with this discharge and now, positive pregnancy tests!
Please please Help!
Answer Hello, sam,
There are some important facts that you haven't explained to me. I need to know which pills you took. Did you take one kind of pills, or two? How far along were you? Pulling out doesn't work, by the way. Neither do condoms.
The discharge means that your uterus is still bleeding, but the fact that it's brown means it's old blood. When you have sex and that stimulates the bleeding, it means that sex causes your uterus to contract. You could easily still be pregnant.
I am sorry about your difficulties. I will just ask you not to make it worse by harming your body. The pills used for pill abortions are dangerous. They can seriously harm or kill you. Some of the pills are not supposed to be used by pregnant women at all. The manufacturer says so. They are medications for stomach ulcers! Surgical abortions are harmful, too. If you want details, please let me know.
If you are planning on breaking off your engagement, don't give the man access to your body anymore. It only complicates the situation.
You will probably need some counseling, and you may need resources. Also, you may want to talk to someone about what to do about the issues of custody and child support. Also, you could use to find out what your options are in general, because if you are still pregnant, you have another decision to make. You can find an organization near you where you can get this kind of help. You can also talk to them by email and on the phone. Go here:
