Expert: Diane Cheryl - 6/8/2009

Question
I am 22 years old now, at 17 I had a miscarriage (stress from a h.s sweetheart), then a couple years later i got very serious with someone else, but he cheated way worse and incidentally cheated on me throughout the years we were together, he gave me chlamydia 4times and gonorrhea once.  In Dec. 2008(at 7wks) I had an abortion due to bad financial circumstances, I am currently about 3weeks pregnant right now, although I really want this baby, I also am keeping my options open, I would just like to be aware of how risky would another abortion be...I know what those std's do to your reproductive system, so I would definitely rather have one child on bad timing then none at right timing. Please let me know what you think.
Thanks , I appreciate it.

Answer
Hi Jocelynn,

I don't recommend abortion at all. I have counseled women in pregnancy situations for over 20 years. Abortion can be dangerous to your body and health. Some women have even died. The side effects that can develop are mental, psychological or emotional.

I think you should keep your baby if that is what you are thinking. There is usually no "right timing". You can never predict when you will get pregnant and what the circumstances could be. Life always changes. Do you have any side effects from your previous abortion or miscarriage? Let me know that.

I would advise you to join the unplanned pregnancy group and see what other women would say to you. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_Pregnancy_help/

Also, you may email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com and we can talk about your situation. You can put ALLEXPERTS in the subject line so I can pay special attention to your email.

Good luck and hope to see you on the yahoo group forum.

Diane Cheryl