AboutPat G Expertise I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of six. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues.
Experience I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.
Education/Credentials I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.
Question My partner and I had unprotected sex twice night and morning sessions 8 days after I had abortion. He didn't pull out either time. What is the likelihood that I am pregnant?
Answer Hi, Tasha,
What you are asking for is a statistic, as I see it. Statistics are a summary of the experiences of many, many women. They don't apply to an individual. If you are pregnant, the likelihood is 100%. If you are not, it's zero. That said, I still wouldn't be able to tell you, and neither would anybody else, because abortion disrupts a woman's delicately balanced hormones, so anything is possible.
You didn't say when you had the abortion, or how long it has been since you had sex. Here's what I suggest. I suggest you calculate three weeks from the day you had sex, and test for pregnancy. While some tests are sensitive enough to detect it earlier, by three weeks, most can. If the test is negative, try again in a week. You'll just have to be patient. Any other method of detecting pregnancy requires a doctor and can be expensive.
Please give some serious thought to the fact that you are still risking your body. You deserve better. Don't think that if you use protection it will work. Condoms don't work, and neither do most other forms of birth control.
If you want to learn how to tell when you are fertile, as long as you are not using any hormones, you can. You have to chart faithfully. Give your body time to settle down after the abortion. To learn more, go here:
Then you can avoid sex when you are likely to be fertile. But personally, I'd recommend you work to find other ways to express affection, simply because there are just too many problems with having sex with someone you're not married to. A woman can get into a cycle of getting pregnant and having an abortion, and this can be very damaging. So it is best to make sure you don't have to face that decision again.
