AboutPat G Expertise I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of six. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues.
Experience I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.
Education/Credentials I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.
Question QUESTION: i m veni here, i m from bangalore , india, i have sex with my boyfriend at regular intervals n i had been pregnent last four times and i got surgical abortion for the last four times and now i m pergnant again n i dnt understand what to do ever one tel me its very risky now, 5th time abortion is life taking is that true, pls help me how to go about this and u can suggest me some good clinics or gyneo in and around bangalore.
ANSWER: Hi, veni,
Abortion is very dangerous. And the more abortions you have, the more damage they do. You need to get out of this cycle of having repeat abortions. Any one of the abortions you have could kill you. It's not just that you have had four abortions before. I don't understand why you keep taking risks like this. Doesn't your boyfriend love you? Why does he let you take this kind of chance? You won't stop this cycle until either you can no longer get pregnant (which would happen if the abortion killed you, too, by the way), or you carry a baby to term, or you stop having sex. Sex is for making babies! There are two groups in Bangalore that can help you. Here is the information:
Nat'l Assoc for Respect for Life 2B Deauville, 19/2 Church St Bangalore 560 001
St Michael's Home Indiranagar Bangalore 560 035 INDIA phone 542811
Go talk to one of them, and see what they can do to help you.
But I am not going to help you put your life in danger again. Enough is enough. You need to take care of yourself. You are not only endangering your own life, but the lives of your future children. You deserve better.
Please let me know what happens.
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QUESTION: i m already 13 weeks pregnant and already i have under gone four surgical abortions before and this will be a fifth time, please let me know what and how much is the risk and how to go about it and where to go
Answer veni,
Do you want to kill yourself? Because that's what could happen. I'm not going to help you hurt yourself. Talk to the people that I mentioned, with the information I gave you.
The risk is very serious. You were "lucky" so far.
If you want someone to help you hurt yourself, you'll have to ask someone else. I won't do it. I care too much about what happens to you. Don't ask me to compromise my principles, or go against my own knowledge of what abortion does.
Your friends warned you well. You can lose your life.
There ARE no "good" clinics. If they will hurt you by doing an abortion, they have disobeyed medical ethics. They cannot be trusted. Sooner or later they get to the point where they're careless, and they hate the women, and they don't care.
I gave you the information you need. Now please use it. Don't hurt yourself again, and don't ask me to help you hurt yourself. Do you understand what I am telling you?
