AboutPat G Expertise I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of six. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues.
Experience I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.
Education/Credentials I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.
Question i want to get put to sleep..iam 13 weeks i need to know a clinic and how much..
Answer Hello, taneka,
You know, there isn't a SINGLE CLINIC in the entire country I'd entrust with your life! They're ALL dangerous and sub-par. Also, very few of them will do an abortion that late.
You are looking at massive risks. There is the risk that you won't even make it out alive. Using general anesthetic increases that risk tremendously. It can also leave you paralyzed or unable to communicate, or both. Very few clinics employ a trained anesthetist. Most are using untrained people who don't have a clue what they're doing. The abortionist could seriously damage your uterus or other internal organs. He'd be operating with a sharp instrument on some very soft tissue, and unable to see what he is doing (ultrasound is not adequate), and these kinds of injuries are common. A woman can bleed to death, require an emergency hysterectomy, or need emergency surgery on other body parts. One woman I know about had to have her colon taken out. She has to evacuate through a bag.
And then there are nasty infections, including sexually transmitted diseases and HIV. Yes, you can get one or more of those from an abortion. Many abortionists do not sterilize their instruments properly, and some re-use disposable instruments. The health department has shut down a lot of the clinics for being so filthy. I saw a video of one that actually didn't get shut down. There was filth everywhere, the building was falling apart, and the stench was unbearable. There were rat leavings on the floor. In a series on the abortion businesses in the area, the Chicago Sun-Times told of one business they went to where a dog was licking blood off the floor.
The chances of dying a violent death in the year following abortion is increased several times. It can be by suicide, homicide, auto accident, overdose on drugs or alcohol, and so forth. Abortion causes some women to become bulimic or anorexic. It causes some women to start to abuse themselves, such as through cutting.
Is this REALLY what you want?
And do you want to greatly increase the chances you'll get a nasty form of breast cancer? If this is your first pregnancy, the risk is even greater, and if you have a history of breast cancer in your family, it's a virtual certainty.
Why would you want to do this to yourself?
Perhaps you are unaware of these things, but that's what I am here for. You deserve to know what kinds of risks you would be running.
Wake up! This is YOUR life you are talking about, and you deserve better!
Before you do anything, get some more information. Find out everything you possibly can. Being put to sleep won't save you the emotional agony. I have a friend whom I met because she was planning to have an abortion. Like you, she was looking at a second trimester abortion. Like you, she wanted to be put to sleep. We tried to talk her out of it, but she went ahead. Twice afterwards, she became suicidal. The first time, another woman and I stayed up all night sending her messages by internet to keep her from doing it. She lives 3000 miles away from me! I couldn't even get the local suicide prevention center on the phone; without even getting to talk to a human, they put me on hold for 40 minutes, long distance. I was never so scared in all my life! A few years later, she told me that a woman at work thought she was pregnant, and wanted an abortion, and then she said, "PLEASE talk her out of it! My abortion ruined my life!"
To hear the other side, to get the information you need, please go here and find a local organization:
You might still decide to go through with it, but believe me, you will be much happier with your decision if you have all the facts while you still have a choice.
Please let me know how you do. I will be praying for you. I will offer you any reasonable help I can, but I will NOT help you hurt yourself!
