Expert: Pat G - 7/14/2009

Question
me and my wife are married 7 yrs now. . . we two l;ovely kids both male 1 is 5 and the other 1 is 6 yrs old. . . The problem now is that my wife is delayed. . . and were not ready for a new one. . . what should we do??? we do not take the test yet, if shes delayed or pregnant??? what we want to happen is go on with her menstraution, we just assume that shes delayed. . . were planning to take a tes then if shes pregnant we like to try the psytotec. . . will it work? pls help us. . . Thanks

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Hello, jaime,

If your wife is pregnant, "going on with her menstruation" won't happen. The only way to prevent her from having a child is to do something violent to her body. You have no right to ask that of her, or even to allow it.

Cytotec is VERY dangerous. They're not talking about this, but it's killing women. There are several ways this can happen. One is that a woman will have contractions of the uterus so strong it will rupture her uterus. Another is for her to develop toxic shock syndrome. That kills within hours, even before the doctors in the emergency room figure out what's wrong. And still another is for her to bleed to death. Women in India are bleeding to death from this drug. This drug is really for stomach ulcers and the manufacturer says it is NOT to be used by pregnant women. Any doctor who would give it to a pregnant woman is committing malpractice, in my opinion.

Don't think about any other violent way to end her pregnancy. They are all very dangerous. We have thousands of women in the States who have been killed by legal abortions. Every abortionist has killed several women. A woman's body is designed to protect her children, so the ONLY way one of her children can be taken is by harming her in some way.

Not only that, but an abortion can harm her future children and cause breast cancer. It can make a woman suicidal. A woman is six times as likely to commit suicide after abortion as otherwise. And violent death by other means in the year after abortion is also common. And it can destroy your marriage. Her children need her. Don't take their mother away from them by such a violent act. Having an abortion also hurts a woman's ability to be a good mother, should she survive. And the children pick up on it and become insecure.

It is common for people not to be ready for another child when a woman becomes pregnant. That's one reason it takes us nine months to grow a child. But by the time the child comes, most people are ready. If you need resources, they are available. And you should explore all your options. To find out more, find an organization in your area. You can find one here:

http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Look under Philippines in the country list. There are 24 organizations on two pages. You can click on "details" to get addresses and phone numbers.

Your wife deserves better. She deserves for you to cherish her and all your children, including any new little ones she conceives. Please take care of her and don't let her take this risk. If you want to know more details about the dangers, please ask. Please let me know how things go.