Expert: Pat G - 9/29/2009

Question
I had an medical abortion on the 28 of August and on September the 5th i had unprotected sex

Answer
Hi, GracieMae,

And your question is?

Please don't think "protection" will help. It won't. Sooner or later, it will fail.

If you don't want to go through another abortion, please think about what you're doing. If you are married, you can learn how to tell when you are fertile. You have to chart faithfully, and you can't be using hormones. You may not get reliable signs so soon after having an abortion. But you can learn more here:

http:/www.fertilityuk.org/

If you are not married, then it isn't in your best interests to have sex, for a number of reasons. The first is possible pregnancy. Then there is the damage from abortion, and the fact that someday you might want to get married, and you won't want your husband to know about your abortion. And there is the harm abortion can do to your future children. But there is also sexually transmitted disease, the likelihood your partner will leave you sooner rather than later, the heartbreak when that happens, the fact that it erodes trust and makes marriage harder for that reason, and lots of other reasons. Sex has deeper meaning, and two people having sex casually miss all of that. And there is often coercion and trickery. If you are enjoying sex, ask yourself whether it's worth the cost. Your partner owes it to you to protect and cherish you.

I hope this helps. But you need to ask a question. Let me know what your concerns are. Take care of yourself. Please.