Expert: Pat G - 3/15/2010

Question
Dear Pat G,
I consider everything you've said, but i cannot have the baby ! I have to abort,I have to go back to the doctor for the ultra sound tomorrow, I will let you know how it goes and what she says. Do you think there is anything else that I can do ? considering the fact that abortion is illegal here? And also do you think its unusual that I haven't had any bleeding yet ,Its been 2 days that the pills were inserted and also taken orally.I'd be extremely careful the next time but I cannot keep the baby.
Thank you so much for your time

Answer
Hello, natali,

There are no methods of abortion that are safe. None at all. They HAVE to hurt you to do one because your body was designed to protect your child. I don't know why you haven't had any bleeding. Did you count your pregnancy from the time when you ovulated, or from the time of your last menstrual period? If you counted from the time you ovulated, the pills probably won't work.

The money you are currently spending to get an abortion could be used to get you to a situation where you could live, have your baby, give him up, and return home, safely. Please give this some thought. You haven't said where the father is in all of this. Is he pressuring you in any way, or withdrawing, or is he paying for the abortion?

Please take care. I know you don't want to have the baby, but it's not worth risking your life. Surgical abortion is very dangerous, too, and could also interfere with your being able to go to class, and a whole lot worse. And it could also damage your future children. Your friend may think she had an abortion without problems. However, she is now much more prone to get breast cancer while she is still young. It could strike her while she is in her 30's, and about 1/4 of the women who get it die from it. If she has anyone in her close family members who has had breast cancer, she is almost certain to get it.

I got a question from a woman last night. She had an abortion, and it has totally destroyed her body. She may not even live. It's in the answers. Go take a look.

You're welcome, and thank you for keeping in touch. I'll keep praying for you. You don't have to do this, and you deserve better.