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hello Pat,
i am 33yrs,i have hypothyrodism and 2 fibroid.i was forced to terminate my 23 wks pregnency. i was feeling like to commite suicide. i miss my baby terribly. will i be able to conceive again in my life? i had my first abortion 8weeks when i was 25yrs old some 9 yrs ago.

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Hello, angel,

Who forced you to have an abortion? That's ridiculous they would do that! I am so sorry, and I understand completely how you feel. I don't know whether you will be able to conceive again, but it is possible you will be able to. The only way you will know is to try. You need to find a decent doctor who won't do things like that to you. What part of India do you live in? I may be able to help you find someone. There are organizations in some cities that offer help with medical care and counseling for what you have experienced. I will also be here for you. Let me know what is on your heart. If you want to talk to me privately, feel free.

You can also get online counseling for how you feel. To get this counseling, go to this web site:

http://www.pregnancycenters.org/

It is possible to heal emotionally, but it can be difficult for some people. That doesn't mean you should give up. You are precious, and you deserved someone who would treat you right medically. I will pray for you.

Please tell me a little about your religious beliefs, and I will tell you a little about mine. I believe in the God Who made the universe, and He made you and loves you, and He wants to have a relationship with you. He loves you so much that He sent His Son to die for you. If you accept this, then you can be reconciled to God. God forgives, and He is willing to forgive you for your abortion. Your babies are resting in His loving arms, where there is no more pain, only joy. They have forgiven you, and they look forward to meeting again. Please honor their memory by taking care of yourself.

It's possible that your health problems are partly due to your diet. Are you a vegetarian? The vegetarian diet is missing some important nutrients. Also, hypothyroidism can be treated easily. Let me know if you would like to talk about this.

Please take care, and keep in touch.

PS

Hello, angel,

Thank you for the very kind rating, and you are welcome. I will pray for you. May the Lord bless you.

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I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of eleven. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues. I am not a doctor, but I have done extensive medical research, so I may be able to help with information. I am female. When you write, if you are or were pregnant, please tell me how far along you were or are, and if you have had an abortion, please tell me what kind. Thank you.

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I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.

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I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.

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