Expert: Shan Yi Sheng - 3/20/2010

Question
My fiance and I recently found that I was pregnant.  At first he and I thought about how we would make it work.  We were both scared and worried, but for the most part he seemed under control.  He would look at me and tell me that I'm going to be a great mother, or kiss me and tell me "we'll get through this".
A few days before my first prenatal visit he changed his tune dramatically.  As of late he has been showering me with reasons as to why an abortion would be a bright idea.  He keeps mentioning things that are important to both of us, like our educations.  On the same token, I am completely anti abortion.  I think a woman should have the right to decide if she wants one, but personally I find it to be wrong.  My fiance is aware of this and is confusing me.  One minute he will revert to the "we can do it" attitude and the next be coercing me into abortion.  I don't know what to do.  Please help.

Answer
Hi Barbara, of course you have to decide fro yourself.
Put al the pro's you can think of on one paper, and all the against's on another. So you can overlook the situation better. A good counseling institution is Pro Care at : http://www.belmonthouse.co.uk/CARE/care_and_pro-choice_counselling.htm
They will help you better than  I can.
take Care !
Bye for now,
Dr Shan