Expert: Shan Yi Sheng - 4/20/2010

Question
Hello,
I recently found out i was pregnant. I am 3 week by calculations. It wasn't a one night stand, it was the beginning off a relationship. And unfortunately, that relationship didn't work out. I hate the fact I am even thinking about abortion, as it was something I thought I was so against, until I became in this position. As I'm only 3 weeks I know it's not yet a "baby". I would be the best mother I could, and do everything I could. But I always imagined I would be in a stable relationship etc, Im only 18 years old.
Is abortion the best option, do you think?

Answer
Hi Dari,
Its your life, and you got only one.
I do not know if you are in the position to care and pay for a baby in this period of your young life.
Some girls get babys when they are fifteen and treat them like the doll they want to play with.
Then that baby starts crying at night and make dirty diapers all the time.
Hopefully there is a grandma ready to take over. There are no more evenings to party or go out
with friends. No more time to study or prepare for a better job or education. As there is no father,
its a lot more difficult. A new boyfriend is not waiting for a young mother.

Noboddy has an abortion for fun.
Many women have an abortion done because they want to be a GOOD mother later.
The embryo is still very small. Less than a grain of rice.
If you think about an abortion, you can get help on:
http://www.womenonwaves.org/set-274-en.html

More women are against abortion until the moment they need one as their case is "Special"
It seems unfair to have to choose between two unpleasant options.
But life is not always fair.
Please keep in touch,
Dr Shan