Expert: Pat G - 7/19/2010

Question
QUESTION: I am 19 years old and i have already have had two clinical abortions. My first abortion was September of 2009 and the 2nd was in April of 2010 and i now believe that i am pregnant again and before proceeding on making an appointment for my 3rd abortion i wanted to know wether this will effect my chances of having children in the future? Will i be able to carry a normal full term pregnancy "IF" i get the 3rd abortion? Because i really want children in the future but I'm just not in the best situation right now to take care of a child. But i don't want to mess up my chances in the future because of my mistakes now. And i will be getting on a 5 year birth control after i find out what's going on with this situation on wether i am pregnant or not!!! Please help me i feel stuck and so confused right now!!!

ANSWER: Hello, Amber,

Your chances of having a normal pregnancy in the future have already been compromised. The more abortions you have, the more damage they will do to your body. Abortion ALWAYS causes damage.

50% of the women who have three surgical abortions never conceive again.

You have embarked on a pattern of having repeat abortions. It has been shown that when a woman does this, there are only three ways to end it. 1. carry the baby to term. 2. stop having sex, or 3. become unable to have children at all. You need to put a stop to this.

You already are at risk of being unable to carry a baby to term. When they force open the cervix with dilators, they cause many tiny tears in the cervix. This weakens it so that it cannot hold the weight of a full term baby. You need to tell your doctor about this, so that he can fasten your cervix shut until time for birth. In addition to the dangers of miscarriage and prematurity (a leading cause of birth defects such as cerebral palsy, autism, epilepsy, mental retardation, blindness and deafness), you also are at much greater risk of problems at the time of birth. You can experience placenta previa, which causes a potentially fatal hemorrhage, or prolonged labor. Both conditions threaten the life of both mother and child, and often make a Caesarian necessary. In addition, you are at increased risk of having a tubal pregnancy. This requires emergency surgery, and the baby cannot live. When they do a surgical abortion, they scrape away the lining and cut away the placenta with a sharp knife, and they can't see what they are doing. Ultrasound really doesn't help that much. During this process, it can cause damage to the uterus, and it can be perforated, and other internal organs can be damaged. A surgical abortion represents a five minute situation that can change your life forever, and rob you of your life, health, or future children. In addition, it is possible to get a sexually transmitted disease, even HIV, from an abortion. This is because many abortionists do not sterilize their instruments properly, if at all. I have entire books of documentation of complications, long term consequences, and women who were killed by legal abortion in the United States. Most abortion facilities won't pass basic health department inspections, either. They tell women it's safe because it's legal. In reality, the opposite is true. Abortionists who were careful because they didn't want to get caught now are not concerned, and they have become even more careless.

On top of that, you are now at much greater risk of developing breast cancer while you are still young. If you have a close relative who has had breast cancer, you are almost certain to develop it. This form is particularly deadly, and kills 1/4 of its victims. You need to have regular thermograms. Do not get a mammogram, because it can spread the cancer. I recommend a woman take Vitamin D3. Usually, they suggest 5000 IU a day. She will need her blood tested to make sure she doesn't get too much. She should also take Resveratrol.

5 year birth control puts powerful chemicals into your body that can cause serious damage as well, and if you discover you can't tolerate it, you have to have it surgically removed. It also will make you more susceptible to sexually transmitted disease.

Do you have the money to pay for medical care if you develop a serious complication?

Please don't make ANOTHER mistake. Please do NOT have another abortion! You really deserve better.

If you don't want to have a baby now, then stop having sex. Sex is for married people anyway, and its purpose is to make babies. People who are not married don't discover the deeper meaning of sex, and it causes them to lose their ability to trust their partner, and eventually their spouse. Every method of trying to prevent pregnancy except abstinence is prone to failure, as you have discovered. Your partner obviously doesn't truly cherish you, because if he did, he wouldn't be putting you at risk like this. You should have a talk with him. If he is not willing to respect your body enough to leave you alone, you deserve someone else.

There is help available for the problems you are facing. They can provide counseling, and deal with your confusion. They will tell you the whole story. You won't hear what I just told you from an abortionist or his staff. They're in it for the money, and they sell abortions. There are organizations that will help you deal with financial and medical issues, provide clothing, furniture, and supplies for a baby, and provide help with adoption. These are located all over the United States, and there is one near you. To find it, please go to this web site:

http://www.pregnancycenters.org/

Please take care of yourself and stay safe. Please keep in touch and let me know how you are doing.

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QUESTION: Ok so i found out today that i am NOT pregnant thank god, but i still was thinking about getting the Mirena because this will be a sure way of me not getting pregnant until I'm ready!!! I feel as though this is the best Birth Control for me because the others don't work for me i got pregnant on the pill and even afterwards i would forget to take the pill, i do not like shots nor the patch. So this is how i came to this decision but i want your opinion do you really think I'm making a big mistake if i get the Mirena inserted? My cousin and a lady i talked to had the Mirena and they had no problems with it i know everyone body reacts different but i didn't think it was too harmful i mean cause all birth control has their warnings and side effects!!! Please tell what you think i should do!!!

Answer
Hello, Amber,

I am glad you are not pregnant. However, that said, I don't advise that you get the Mirena. Here is a list of the possible side effects.

"    Acne; back pain; breast pain or tenderness; changes in menstrual bleeding (eg, spotting); changes in sex drive; dizziness, lightheadedness, bleeding, or cramping during placement; headache; nausea; vomiting; weight gain.

"Seek medical attention right away if any of these SEVERE side effects occur when using Mirena IUD:

"    Severe allergic reactions (rash; hives; itching; difficulty breathing; tightness in the chest; swelling of the mouth, face, lips, or tongue); breast lumps; changes in vision; chills; fever; genital sores; mental or mood changes (eg, depression); missed menstrual period; numbness of an arm or leg; painful sexual intercourse; prolonged heavy menstrual bleeding; severe pain or tenderness in the abdomen or pelvis; sharp or crushing chest pain; sudden leg pain; sudden, severe headache, vomiting, dizziness, or fainting; sudden shortness of breath; unusual or odorous vaginal discharge; unusual vaginal swelling or bleeding; yellowing of the skin or eyes.

"Mirena Side Effects - for the Professional

"The following most serious adverse reactions associated with the use of Mirena are discussed in greater detail in the Warnings and Precautions section (5):

"   * Ectopic Pregnancy [see Warnings and Precautions (5.1)]
   * Intrauterine Pregnancy [see Warnings and Precautions (5.2)]
   * Group A streptococcal sepsis (GAS) [see Warnings and Precautions (5.3)]
   * Pelvic Inflammatory Disease [see Warnings and Precautions (5.4)]
   * Embedment [see Warnings and Precautions (5.6)]
   * Perforation [see Warnings and Precautions (5.7)]
   * Breast Cancer [see Warnings and Precautions (5.10)]"

http://www.drugs.com/sfx/mirena-side-effects.html

OK, let's take a look at this. Mirena has some kind of birth control chemical in it, obviously. This means you will be polluting your body on an ongoing basis. Women who have used Mirena are leaving messages on the web that say they are sorry they ever got one. To cover the more serious possibilities, ectopic pregnancy is an emergency medical condition that requires immediate surgery. Otherwise, it can kill you. Intrauterine pregnancy means you can get pregnant anyway; there is a failure rate. You don't want to mess with a streptococcal infection. I can tell you that such infections may take years to heal with very aggressive treatment, if they heal at all. Pelvic inflammatory disease can prevent you from ever having a child, and it can cause pain. Embedment and perforation damage the uterus. And you certainly don't want to get breast cancer! You are already at greater risk for that. And it is also possible that the device can kill you outright. Maybe you would argue this doesn't happen to everyone. This doesn't matter a bit if it happens to you!

Do you really want to keep doing this kind of thing to your body? I wouldn't dream of it, personally. I experience a sense of outrage that companies even market such harmful devices to women. That's sexist, as far as I am concerned, and makes us into sexual playthings of men rather than persons in our own right. And they're doing it for the money. Frankly, the FDA should force them to take it off the market! There is no sense in doing this kind of damage to a HEALTHY body. We have a tendency to think we can fix a medical problem with pills. It's not as easy to do things the natural way, but in the long run, you will be so much better off. I say this after having spent the evening with a man whose wife is being given all kind of toxic chemicals in the health care facility where she is staying, and she can hardly think, and does dangerous things because she can't think not to. She is a mess. And it's all from this attitude that there is some kind of quick fix that involves nothing more than taking a pill or inserting something into the body.

If you are not married, the only truly SAFE and EFFECTIVE method of preventing pregnancy is to abstain! Stop having sex! Sex is FOR making babies. Sex outside of marriage is full of all kinds of bad effects, both medical and emotional. And if you stop having sex, you will also no longer be at risk for getting a sexually transmitted disease. And I should mention that any kind of birth control chemical can also make a woman MORE susceptible to STD because it changes the pH of the fluids in the system.

Please ask yourself why you want to continue to risk your life and health this way. You deserve better. Talk to your partner. Does he truly cherish you, or is he just using your body for his own pleasure? If he isn't willing to stop using your body, you really deserve someone better. It will be painful emotionally to break up with him, but in the end, you will be thankful you did. The momentary pleasure of sex for yourself is simply NOT worth the cost of taking these kinds of risks.

Please keep yourself safe. Your life, future, and ability to have children depend on it. Please keep in touch.