Expert: Pat G - 7/21/2010

Question
I just found out that i am 13 weeks pregnent an am from southafrica in limpopo province i want to knw if there are any pharmasits that have the ru486 pill that i can buy an get rid of the baby coz its giving me a hard tym aspecialy with ma parents and hw much wil it cost me

Answer
Hello, Rachel,

Are you currently in Norway?

You are way too far along in pregnancy for RU486 to work. It simply won't accomplish what you want. So there's no point in buying it or taking it. RU486 rarely works past seven weeks or so anyway.

There are organizations that can help you with whatever problems you are facing, whether you are in Norway or South Africa. To find one near you, please go to this web site:

http://heartbeatservices.org/connections/worldwide-directory

Don't let your parents put any pressure on you. They don't have any right to do that. Ask them if they want to pay for the medical complications if you have an abortion and get hurt. It can run into a lot of money. Abortion is never safe, but by the time you reach 13 weeks, it is a lot more dangerous. It could kill you or cause you to become seriously disabled. Your parents are upset, like I'm sure you were. Give them time. Most parents become supportive in the long run. I can tell you from personal experience, and also from talking to other women, that parents usually love their grandchildren very much. I have two grandchildren who were born out of wedlock, and I love them very, very much. They're no different from my other nine. It's not their fault that their parents aren't married. Just stand up to your parents. These organizations can help you deal with the issue of parents who are putting pressure on young women. You deserve better, and you also deserve to meet your baby through ultrasound.

I would NEVER ask any of my children to risk their life to have an abortion.

Let me know if there are specific problems I can help you with. Please take care of yourself and stay safe.