Expert: Pat G - 7/30/2010

Question
what method do they use to terminate a 12 week pregnancy. And are its for free at the clinics?

Answer
Hello, eugene,

You have a male name. Are you thinking of asking or demanding that the mother of your child have an abortion? If that is the case, leave her alone. An abortion could kill her. It is very dangerous at that stage regardless. Even people who think abortion is safe will tell you that. And no, it is absolutely not free. It costs a LOT of money. They're not in this business to help women. They are in the business to make money. In addition, she might have to travel a significant distance, and the travel and motel will cost money.

On top of the cost of the abortion itself, could you afford to pay for the medical care she might need to save her life?

What country is she in?

The mother of your child deserves better than abortion. Forcing her to have an abortion would be aggression on your part. Abortion is thought of as a deep form of medical rape by a lot of people. She may be one of those people. I am. She deserves your protection, not your violence.

There are organizations in most countries that can help her with whatever problems she is facing. She doesn't need to do that.

As for method, she will have to go through labor, or they will rip the baby's body apart (which causes the baby excruciating pain), and there is the danger that the bones will injure her uterus, or that they will injure her uterus in another way. She might have to have a hysterectomy. It could also harm her future children, such as causing miscarriage, tubal pregnancy in the future (which requires emergency surgery to save her life), or nasty birth defects like cerebral palsy, autism, mental retardation, epilepsy, blindness, or deafness. It could make her much more likely to commit suicide. It could cause her to be careless with her life, and she could die from an accident. She could abuse drugs or alcohol, or herself. She could develop anorexia, bulimia, or sleep disturbances. This could include nightmares. I have experienced those nightmares. No person with a heart would ever cause a woman to have nightmares like that. It could cause her to develop breast cancer within the next 10 to 15 years, and this form of breast cancer kills 1/4 of its victims.

Please don't do this. If you care for this woman at all, try to discourage her. It is NOT a humane thing to do to any woman. Please let me know what country she is in, and I will see if I can find her some real help. Please keep in touch and let me know how things go.