Expert: Pat G - 9/3/2010

Question
hello pat g
   i m uxr from india...just i want discuss with you one thing about pregenancy/abortion...
       1 friend  mine she's name is neha...and she is 24.
she had sex before 1 month..now she missed her period...she is very tens...becoz she dont know that the sex she did that safe or not...and her boyfriend ran away after doing this all things...now plz tell me the best secure method of abortion...and after how many days abortion will become danger...and try to tell any tablets or medicine..plz i waiting  

Answer
Hello, Uxr,

You need to tell your friend that abortion can kill her. There is no such thing as a secure method of abortion. Abortion is NOT safe. Abortion is dangerous from the very beginning. Some women use powerful drugs. These can cause a woman to bleed to death, or develop a massive infection that can kill a woman within hours, or cause a woman to have a ruptured uterus. All methods of abortion make a woman much more likely to get breast cancer. A surgical abortion can not only kill a woman, but it can harm her future children. It can cause repeat miscarriages, sterility, tubal pregnancy, and complications at birth. It can cause very early birth, which is a major cause of cerebral palsy, epilepsy, mental retardation, autism, blindness, and deafness in the child.

If that weren't enough, abortion also causes serious emotional damage. Some women become suicidal. Women abuse drugs, alcohol, and themselves. They can die from homicide or accident. Whatever relationship they have with the father will probably be destroyed. They can develop eating or sleeping disorders. For example, they can have horrible nightmares. I have experienced these myself. Your friend doesn't want to experience them. Trust me!

You are asking me to prescribe when you ask me to tell you tablets or medicine. I cannot do that. I am not a doctor. I could get into a lot of trouble, because I would be practicing medicine without a license. If I were a doctor, I would never prescribe these anyway because they are so dangerous and harmful. One drug isn't even supposed to be given to a pregnant woman under any circumstances. You are also asking me to help you harm your friend, and I won't do that, either. You need to ask your friend if she has the money to pay for medical care if she develops complications, or if she can even get access to good medical care.

There are better answers. And there are organizations in some cities in India that can help your friend with whatever problems she is facing. If she is unmarried, and is afraid of how people will react, there is a home where she can stay until her baby is born.

Please tell your friend not to take this awful chance with her life. She deserves better. Please let me know where she lives, and I will see what kind of help is available in her area. Please protect your friend, and let me know how she does.