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Hello,
I've read alot of your answers and I want to know what gives you the right to tell woman NOT to have sex just because they are not married? Your advice seems very judgemental.
Hello, Sim,
It is not I who judges them. They judge themselves. They get into a situation they cannot handle, and then they allow some butcher to attack their bodies. Sex outside of marriage is not in a woman's best interest. Too many women get hurt. Sex outside of marriage is exploitation by men. If some women seek it, it may well be because they have already been hurt. A woman with self respect wouldn't give away her body so cheaply.
People come to me for advice. I believe in being honest. I give them the advice I think would be in their best interests. If you don't like my advice, nobody is forcing you to read my answers.
I tell women I think are being used to refuse to let it continue. I only say it where I think it is appropriate.
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Answers by Expert:
Pat G
Expertise
I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of eleven. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues. I am not a doctor, but I have done extensive medical research, so I may be able to help with information. I am female. When you write, if you are or were pregnant, please tell me how far along you were or are, and if you have had an abortion, please tell me what kind. Thank you.
Experience
I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.
Education/Credentials
I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.
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