Expert: Diane Cheryl - 3/9/2011

Question
Hello I am in need of some serious help.... My girlfriend is pregnnt but what makes it a problem is her family is very religious and could even disown her as their child and they will hate me as well her friends and family will think less of her if they find out shes pregnant! and what makes it worse is its so hard for us to afford an abortion EVEN THE PILL! i heard the pill is from 350-650$$ is it possible i can get it at the minumum price without exams? I need your advice this is such a dire situation. no money, little time, and the fact we have to hide it from her family who might even just kill us if they find out is making this so so hard :(

Answer
Dear Quintel,

Thanks for your question. I am sorry to hear of your stress in this situation. I would urge you to go to a pregnancy resource center and see what kind of help you can get there. If her family is religious, maybe they will be ok about her being pregnant. Would they want her to have an abortion? I wouldn't think so. If you contact the pregnancy center, they will offer you you some alternatives to abortion. So go to http://www.optionline.org or call 1-800-395-HELP. Or try http://www.heartbeatservices.org and click on the globe in the upper right hand corner of the page.

Do you know abortion can hurt your girlfriend? I have counseled many young couples in these situations and most women and the men regret having an abortion. Many women have post abortion problems-such as physical, (infertility, etc) emotional and psychological. Men also have problems after abortion. Plus, abortion is killing your baby conceived in love between you two.
Why would you want to do that?

Try to calm down and think rationally. Also, tell me your ages and anything else that might be relevant to your situation. But the first thing to do is contact that pregnancy center near you that you find online at http://www.optionline.org
Also, will you email me privately at CHERYL51@aol.com or tell your girlfriend to email me. Please put ALLEXPERTS in the subject line of your email.

Diane Cheryl