Expert: Pat G - 4/18/2011

Question
Iv had 4 abortions each time i got referals from my doctors as i couldnt afford 2 go private.iv just recently moved and im at a new surgery now.my 1st appointment is tomorrow as i recently did a test an found out i am pregnant, yet again it is unwanted so wil need to be refered by a doctor 4 an abortion.would my new doctors no about my previous terminations if i dont tell them?

Answer
Hello, Cheryl,

You are doing SERIOUS damage to your body with all those abortions. You are lucky none of the abortions have killed you or caused obvious and serious harm. That doesn't mean that there hasn't been damage. Your chance of having a healthy child someday has been greatly reduced. You are also a candidate for a very serious and virulent form of breast cancer, and you could easily get an auto-immune disease. There are plenty of organizations in UK that can help with your needs, and provide this baby with a home if you don't want to raise him or her.

If you don't tell your doctor you have had previous abortions, that also will endanger your health. You should always tell a doctor your full medical history. It is possible he may be able to tell, depending on what kind of abortions you had. If you do decide to carry this baby, it is important to tell the doctor about your abortions also, because there are some treatments he can use that will increase your chance of having a healthy child.

I assume you are not married. If you want to live in a state of fear of pregnancy, then go ahead and continue what you have been doing, but if you want to be free of that fear, then you should stop having sex. Abortion is NOT supposed to be used as a method of birth control. We have learned that when a woman has many abortions, such as you have had, she is most likely to continue in a cycle of getting pregnant and having abortions unless she either stops having sex, becomes unable to get pregnant at all, or carries a baby to term. Since you are already pregnant, the only way to stop the cycle is to refuse to have an abortion this time.

You can find an organization near you by going to this web site:

http://www.optionline.org/

They also offer online counseling.

You really deserve better than abortion. Please don't risk your life another time. Please stay safe. I will be here for you any time you need to talk, and I would appreciate it very much if you let me know how you are doing. I will pray for you.