Expert: Pat G - 4/10/2011

Question
I had given up hope of hearing from you since i got no mail but having read your answers,am encouraged.Please could you mail me the list of those organisations in Nigeria that could help me in my condition.Also,i want to appeal to you to pray for me as am going through difficult times and am drained emotionally.I really need God's forgiveness,grace and strength to carry on.God bless you for being a source of hope to many of us all around the world.I earnestly await your reply.I hope this time,it gets to my mailbox.One again,thanks.

Answer
Hi, worried,

Sorry I didn't get back to you before, although I did write a response at the time, which I hope you got. I just asked for the information about Nigeria, and it will probably take a couple of days. I'll get back to you. In the meantime, many churches will offer help. Not all will, so don't be surprised, but keep checking until you find one that does. There are still far too many Christians who don't really understand what a woman goes through, or how much people take advantage of us.

Also, as I mentioned, you can get online counseling here:

http://www.optionline.org/

They can talk to you, even though you are in Nigeria.

If you ask God for forgiveness, He will freely grant it. He has already died for you, and all the things you have done or will ever do. Please know that this promise of forgiveness is sure. Pray for the ability to trust in His forgiveness. Pray for His strength. Keep praying. Read the Psalms. I think you will find some of them to be very comforting. Ask God for the ability to forgive yourself as well. You might find it helpful to make a memorial to your child. You can plant a tree, or make a page on the internet. Also, give your child a name. I will definitely pray. Be patient. Healing will come. It takes awhile. Take care.