Expert: Pat G - 4/30/2011

Question
I'm not ready to be a mom and neither is my boyfriend to be a dad. and my parents don't know about it but how can i get an abortion pill without my parents knowing ?

Answer
Hello, Alexis,

Those pills are poisonous, and can kill a pregnant woman. They can also cause serious harm that will require expensive medical care. If you take the pills, and have some kind of complication, your parents WILL find out about it, and they will have to pay the bill. It's not a good idea to have an abortion without their knowledge. And they are legally responsible for what you do. Almost certainly, they love you, and do have a right to help you make such a major decision.

You haven't said why you don't want them to know. Is it because you think they will somehow reject you? I have had some fairly extensive experience with this type of problem, and I'll tell you that they will be upset at first, but that in nearly all cases, parents become very supportive, and they dote on the grandchild. I have twelve grandchildren, and two of them were born out of wedlock. I wasn't happy about it, but you know what? I absolutely adore those kids, and I would do anything for them. I have spent many, many hours helping one of our sons who is having problems with the situation.

You can get help with whatever you are facing, and with the job of telling your parents. You can also choose adoption if you are still not ready to parent by the time your child is born. There are organizations all over the United States that help people in your position. To find one near you, look in the Yellow Pages under "Abortion alternatives" or go to this web site:

http://www.optionline.org/

Whatever you do, do not go to an abortion facility for any reason. They will not tell you what your options are, they will not tell you the medical risks, and many of them are filthy and wouldn't pass basic health department inspections. They sell abortions. All they want is your money, and they don't care what they will do to you, just so they get it. And this goes even for the abortion facilities with the best reputations.

You deserve to know what all your options are, and you deserve better than abortion. Many, many women regret their abortions for the rest of their lives. Please don't be one of them.

Please let me know how things go. I will be here for you. Please stay safe!