Expert: Pat G - 9/16/2011

Question
QUESTION: what to do if we missed contraceptive tablet and what if she is not getting periods what to do and which tablet to have to stop pregnancy please advice

ANSWER: Hello, shafiq,

The pills they use to "stop pregnancy" are dangerous and can kill a woman. About 10,000 women a year are dying in India, mostly from taking the pills. PLEASE don't let her take them! It's not worth it. In addition to causing a woman to bleed to death, they can cause her to develop a raging infection that will kill her within hours. I don't even know of a way to save a woman's life once she develops such an infection. They can cause such strong contractions they can rupture a woman's uterus. They can cause a woman to develop breast cancer in just a few years, or auto-immune disease like lupus or rheumatoid arthritis. They can make her suicidal. They can cause eating and sleep disorders, and can cause her to abuse drugs and alcohol. The instructions that come with a lot of those pills are the deadliest as well. Think also of the cost of medical care if she develops this kind of complication. Do you have that kind of money?

She deserves your protection. Seriously. She doesn't deserve for you to give her a deadly pill. You are asking me to practice medicine without a license, and I could get into a lot of trouble. You are also asking me to help you hurt her, and I won't do that.

Granted, the timing of the pregnancy may be a problem. But there are better answers. You can move with her to another part of India and keep her safe until the baby is born, and then choose adoption. You can get married. You can ask a local church, because there is an organization in Tamil Nadu, if I recall correctly, that will give you both help, so you can let her give birth. But please don't do this! I will be here and hope you will keep in touch. I am available for additional questions. Please keep her safe!

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QUESTION: but its just 2week my parents wont support us for marriage it will take me 1year to take her with me and go for court marriage v have planned for taht as well

Answer
Hello, shafiq,

Thank you for the very kind rating.

In spite of the difficulties you face, giving her poisonous pills is not the answer. It would be far worse to hurt or kill her. Talk to the churches in your area, and ask them to help you find an organization in Tamil Nadu that can help you. I remember there is one. There is also a place in another city where she can go and stay during her pregnancy, and the local organization will know about that.

At two weeks she can't take a pill that will make a difference anyway. None of them are effective.

Please do not ask me to help you hurt her. I am not here to help people hurt women. I am here to warn people so they don't hurt women.

Please make a real effort to find another answer. There are answers, but you have to look for them. Please keep in touch.