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Hi there
I regrettably had a medical abortion at 6weeks 5 days gestation. It was 2 weeks ago, I had severe cramps but no blood loss. I am still pregnant and embryo growing, they are saying I must have a surgical termination due to possible defects. I have grieved this baby once, now there is a chance I feel like I want to continue. However, I don't think I could forgive myself if this baby had defects to be reminded of what I did. I know the risk is low, however the research looks like my gestation is the time the cranio nerves develop, so this would be a high risk?
I am scared and alone, there is no support here in the UK for this.
Any advice would be gratefully received. I know this is my own doing. I am so very sorry.

Hello, Sarah,

I am sorry I didn't answer you sooner. I was gone all day.

The most likely reason that the abortion didn't succeed is because your baby was making his own progesterone, so as a result, no harm was done. The odds of having a baby with a defect due to the abortion attempt are very, very low. Babies can have other problems for other reasons. It's a risk all mothers take.

There IS help in UK. Go to this web site:

They have a function that will help you locate a group or organization in your area that will help you.

Tell God you are sorry. He will forgive you. Then ask Him to help you forgive yourself, to honor His forgiveness.

I am glad you changed your mind about having an abortion. May God bless you and your baby, and have a Merry Christmas! Please keep in touch and let me know how things go. I look forward to seeing a picture of your baby! Take good care of both of you.


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I can help women with the consideration of their decision, and with resources, and I can share my own experiences as the mother of seven and grandmother of eleven. My approach is to show love and concern, and help women work through the issues, emotional, spiritual, practical. I also help women deal with boyfriend and family issues. I am not a doctor, but I have done extensive medical research, so I may be able to help with information. I am female. When you write, if you are or were pregnant, please tell me how far along you were or are, and if you have had an abortion, please tell me what kind. Thank you.


I have been working with women who are considering abortion for several years. I also work with women who have had abortions. Our family has also experienced adoption, so I can talk about that as well.

I am mostly self-taught. I also studied midwifery for awhile. I have spent years doing research on this topic. In fact, I have been doing research and working in this area since the early 1970's. I have been helping women online for a few years, under the guidance of a woman who was formally training in counseling.

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