Expert: Diane Cheryl - 12/8/2006

Question
I don't really know what I want to ask. I've been looking on the internet all morning for answers but i know i will only find it within...but it's  just not there either. I'm 30 and have had 2 abortions in my twenties because I felt like I was not ready emotionally, financially, mentally, spiritually, in any way. I'm 30 and still feel like a teenager, still struggle to make a living, make mature decisions. I've been in a relationship for 4 months and 2 days ago discovered I'm pregnant again. Within the first hour of finding out, I decided that the only option was another abortion. But then other thoughts began creeping in and since then I have been in a state of torment. I still feel very unready yet something is saying "maybe nows the time". Who am I to reject life 3 times? I have a beautiful 9-year old niece and saw my sister raise her as a single mother and how it changed everything about her life... everything. I love my niece to bits but I don't feel like i am capable of or want to raise a child.  Selfish? Yes. But thats who I am right now. Would it be right to raise a child when you don't want to be a mother?I don't know if my boyfriend and I are going to be together for years to come and I don't want to do it alone. I wanted to wait till i was married.

If you could give me any words of wisdom or refer me to someone who can, I would be very grateful.
Thank you.

Answer
Hi Maria,
I'd like to know what has happened with you. Please email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com
Thinking of you...
Diane Cheryl

Hello,
I emailed you back right away but haven't heard back from you. Please let me know if you received the below email.
Email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com

Hi Maria,
Thanks for your question. It sounds like you are really doing some soul-searching and this is good. I would like to help you in whatever way I can. Please email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com so I can talk and advise your further. I would also like to suggest these sites to obtain further advice/support. http://www.voy.com/66018/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
Please email me back so we can talk more. I have limited time right now and can't write more on here.
Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl