Expert: Diane Cheryl - 7/15/2007

Question
hello. im not sure your the right person to ask. i have recently had a surgical abortion. i was quite sure of the decision but as soon as i woke from the anaesthetic i felt nothing but sadness and its kept with me ever since. i feel i made the decision too quick. im 20 and think im old enough to deal with the consequences. but i feel i took the easy option without dealing with it. im still bleeding as i had an implanon fitted. when i see the blood all i can think of is that day. i have never had a feeling like this i feel nothing but emptiness i know its a cliche but it so true. i feel i killed my childs chance of life. and all i wish for is for my partner to have pulled me back that day when i went for the procedure.it also seems like the time of year because lots of people i now have become pregnant. why am i the only one selfish enough to terminate my child?..... how long will  i feel like this?

Answer
Hi Sara,
I'm sorry to hear about your sadness. Unfortunately, this is quite common and you are not alone in these feelings. Many women do make the decision quickly and out of panic and do regret their decision. I cannot tell you how long you will feel like this. Forgiveness for yourself and your partner is a key to your healing process. I can send you some post abortion help literature if you would like. Just email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com with your confidential mailing address. Hope to hear from you soon. We can talk more.

Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl