Expert: Diane Cheryl - 9/5/2007

Question
I am pregnant by another man.  He wasn't my boyfriend at 1st we were both in a relationship but this past month we decided to leave our partners alone and be together and then we broke up because I really don't think he wants to be with me.  But now I am pregnant and he doesn't want it because he already has 2 baby mothers and his second child is only 1 years old.  I don't want to have an abortion but I also don't want my child to grow up without a father. In a way I forced him to get me pregnant because we never used condoms and whenever he would tell me he doesn't want any more kids I told him I didn't care and I wouldn't mind taking care of a baby myself but I do mind taking care of a baby by myself.  I want to have the baby but I don't want to do it by myself.  My ex boyfriend is still in my life because he wants us to get back together I always tell him no because he always cheated on me in the past.  I love this other guy but I know the feeling is not mutual and i still want to keep my baby but I told him I was pregnant and he was silent and did not call me back so I don't know what to do he is blaming me for getting pregnant because he said he told me he doesn't want another baby and I told him I was scared to have an abortion but he didn't say anything...I don't know what to do

Answer
Hello Cutecia,

Thanks for your email. I am not a medical doctor so unable to give you a medical diagnosis. However, I have counseled women with unplanned pregnancies for almost 19 years now.
I would urge you to do a lot of research on abortion and pregnancy. I would also like you to join the yahoo group for unplanned pregnancy. Here is the link http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
Also, you can look at these links
http://www.optionline.org
This tells you the development of your baby and also the different abortion methods. Also it lists the pregnancy help centers in all areas of U.S. and some other countries.
Here is another good website
http://www.standupgirl.com
There are so many comments I want to make on some of your questions and statements. I can't make such a long post so  please email me at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com and we can talk more. Hope to hear from you soon.

Diane Cheryl
DCHERYL51@yahoo.com