Expert: Shan Yi Sheng - 8/25/2007

Question
I am married. My husband and I had separated and just got back together a year ago. Reason because he cheated on me. And now, I am 7 weeks pregnant, I am thrill to be a mother but he is not, because he think we still have some issue to fix, baby on board just too early. He keep giving me negative thought to have the baby in the beginning. I'd try my best to think this is going to work out. We have some domestic violence sometimes when we are in fight.

I am very scare and upset, I decided to leave him for good and get an abortion. Just to cut clean. But I'm having a strong feeling about the baby, I afraid to do abortion again. I had done it twice before and with the same guy...
I feel like an idiot. I feel bad.
Please tell me I am making a right decision for myself. I cannot damage myself again and again.

When he know I chose to do the abortion and leave him. He change his mind and tell me he want the baby. Why is that?

Answer
Dear Yvonne,
it is your life. You and only you can should decide what to do. Talk with your best friends, sister e.g.
This man does not seem to nice to me. I hate violence.  Violence is a sign of weakness. Arguments are OK. I can nor will decide for you; do not know your age even. You are the expert in this case. Not I.
This is a difficult period in your life, but you will survive.
good luck,
dr Shan