Expert: Diane Cheryl - 6/2/2007

Question
Hello, my name is Veronica and I am 20. I dont know what to do anymore. I am 9 weeks pregnant and before I was pretty sure I was going to keep it but now I dont know. I couldnt get in contact with my bf and decided to surprise him today and thats how I found out that he was with his daughter. That hurt because He couldnt tell me from the get go that he was going over his baby mother's house and it makes me think am I going to be able to handle this. I love him and want to be with him but I just feel that he is cheating on me all the time when he is with his baby mother and I cant be with him feeling this way. I dont want to have an abortion. This would be my second one. I just dont know if I can stand the sight of him with his baby mother. I know he has to see his daughter but I just feel why should he hide it from me. I didnt see him for 2 days and its like he is very distant now and its making me think.We was supposed to get a place together and everything and now I just feel so confused. I just dont want to be just another "baby mother" to him- I just want to be more. But I sometimes doubt that this is right for me. Please help

Answer
Hello,
How are you doing? Did you join any of the groups I recommended? I hope you will email me so we can talk more. Let me know what is happening.

Diane Cheryl
DCHERYL51@yahoo.com

Hi Veronica,
Thanks so much for your question. I'm sorry to hear that you are confused about what to do. And I'm sorry to hear that you are in this situation with your guy. The key words that I hear from you are "I don't want to have an abortion." If you don't want that, then don't do that. I can send you some resources and set you up with some support groups. I would also love to hear from you by email so I can give you more individualized advice and counsel. Please email me privately at DCHERYL51@yahoo.com
Also, here are some support groups to try
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unplanned_pregnancy_help/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/pregnant_teen_support/
http://www.voy.com/66018/
and a website
http://www.optionline.org
This last one is for finding support in your area through a free pregnancy resource center. Hope this helps and write me as soon as possible.

Sincerely,
Diane Cheryl
DCHERYL51@yahoo.com