AboutDanielle Expertise I can answer questions regarding medical and surgical abortion, questions about abortion in general, like moral and religious issues concerning the procedure. I'm happy to answer questions, have discussions, and provide further information, like pro-choice websites and organizations.
Experience I have people close to me who have gotten abortions, I know the current abortion issues, and I have researched abortion in depth for a long time.
Question Hi there. I have a question regarding those people who are oppossed to abortion, who say that it is only acceptable when the woman's life is at risk or if she is raped. I can see the former, but if they truly believe that a fetus is a human life, why support it for rape? They say because the woman didn't have a choice. But that seems like a sly way of saying that the woman didn't choose to have sex or derive pleasure from the experience. I have noticed that these people are VERY anti- sex, against pleasure for women in particular. Because even if a woman is married, she is NOT supossed to use birth control or have an abortion. I know that I would not be able to enjoy sex if I were constantly having to worry about getting pregnant. Why can't these people grasp the concept that not ALL women want to have children, and that women are sexual just like men are, and that doesn't make us "irresponsible" or "selfish" or "whorish". Grrrr.
Tricia
Answer Hi Tricia :)
Yeah, it's probably because she didn't CHOOSE to have the sex, so therefore she should have the choice to end the pregnancy. However, I've come across one too many of these people who are also against exceptions for rape, incest, and even the woman's life. I actually read one comment about how rape rarely results in pregnancy, because the cervix will only open up when the woman is sexually excited. Which is basically science from before the 1300's. Or, that the rape was traumatic enough, so why "kill the baby" and make it even worse? Apparently carrying a pregnancy 9 months then raising that child, a 24/7 reminder of the rapist and the horrendous event is all fine and dandy and won't ever result in psychological problems for the woman or the child.
Yes, they are very anti sex, especially women having sex, and heaven forbid she does it for pleasure, or recieves pleasure from it. It all links back to the idea that women should only have sex after marriage, and for the purpose of having children. The separation of sex from procreation is still very controversial for these people. Yep, and of course once she's married, she automatically wants tons of children. The reasoning is so illogical. You nailed it-women can now have a very, very good chance of having sex without the consequence of an unwanted pregnancy. But for these people, if you choose to have sex, you're choosing to have a child. This is what many of them think, and it's quite ridiculous in my opinion. And I totally agree, all I'd be able to think would be "is this going to result in a pregnancy? Am I going to have to deal with that?"
They just simply can't get the fact that there are women who just don't want or like children. It's an impossible idea to them. They want every baby to be born, even if that means it's unwanted, won't be cared for, and will likely live life that is pure hell. They care about the embryo/fetus, not the baby, and certainly not the woman. They see women as being the submissive partners to men, including sexually. The idea of women enjoying sex w/o consequence and having tons of it is horrifying to say the least to some of these people. And of course the woman is the slut, the man is the stud. I totally get where you're coming from, I feel completely the same way. It just comes down to old fashioned, romanticized ideals that these people have, and that they view women as tools to bear children and please their husbands, and women shouldn't have premarital sex, and should ALWAYS be willing to raise a child.
I hope I was able to answer any questions you may have had, although I just elaborated on what you said; you got everything perfectly. It's sexism, and it's absolutely unjustified, and we'll just have to let these people continue thinking this way, while more realistic people pave the way for a better future for women and children.
