AboutDanielle Expertise I can answer questions regarding medical and surgical abortion, questions about abortion in general, like moral and religious issues concerning the procedure. I'm happy to answer questions, have discussions, and provide further information, like pro-choice websites and organizations.
Experience I have people close to me who have gotten abortions, I know the current abortion issues, and I have researched abortion in depth for a long time.
Question Hello Danielle,
I’m 22 years old
I’m pregnant since 5 weeks
I want to lose my baby
Wrong man, wrong timing, wrong financials and wrong social circumstances
Abortion is not an easy or safe operation here in my country; abortion pills aren’t legal as well.
I thought about taking medicines that are forbidden for pregnant women to take as it causes abortion, I know it may effect on my health so badly but I have no choice.
What’s your opinion about that? If you support me in this; can you tell me some names of these medicines? I found one, its name is roaccutan, it is taken for acne and it causes abortion if I took over than 80 mg one time. I haven’t tried it yet.
It causes extreme depression too, and here is my second question; what can I do to all these awful feelings I have? About being pregnant & about planning for abortion, I’m depressed Danielle, I feel I’m a very bad girl; an awful mother, a loser, a criminal. Why that has happened to me? I took good care not to allow such thing to be happened and I don’t know exactly how or when that happened! I regret that so much. I can’t concentrate in my work and lost the ability of eating. My partner doesn’t care about the problem we face and he has left me to handle the problem as the way I prefer (as he said). I feel lonely I feel angry I feel it is a nigh mare that believe me, will never end even if I lost my baby.
Please reply to me as soon as possible,
Thank you.
Answer Hi Yasmine :)
Even when you take precaution to prevent a pregnancy, it unfortunately can still happen. You are one of many women in the same situation. My words may not help, but I can 100% reassure you that you are in no way a bad mother. A bad mother abuses her child; and even then, there can be explainable reasons. You are a great mother for the fact you are taking care of yourself, and the embryo. You are making sure it does not live an unhappy life.
You're not bad, you're responsible. It'd be bad if you had a child you couldn't care for. No, not a loser nor a criminal. In the US, where i am, many, MANY women got illegal abortions. They saved their own lives and those of others; yet at the same time too many died becuase of the unsafe conditions associated with illegalized abortion.
You're partner should've stayed by you to help you through this, but we all make bad decisions. I can tell you though, the most common emotion associated after terminating a pregnancy is relief.
I think you're talking about roaccuatane? There's definitely a chance of miscarriage, but not definite. And there's a bigger chance of it just causing fetal abnormalities, which now that i think of it, would probably cause your body to reject the embryo. I don't know of other medications aside from the legalized ones that cause a miscarriage, but I'd be happy to look them up for you.
Is there any way to find out the names of the other medications?If it comes down to having no other choice, try the roaccutane. Since you won't be taking it for long, don't worry about the depression. But the best way to get help for those awful feelings you have is to talk to someone. A friend, therapist, counselor, me, whoever you want. I'm always here if you have anymore questions or concerns.
