AboutDanielle Expertise I can answer questions regarding medical and surgical abortion, questions about abortion in general, like moral and religious issues concerning the procedure. I'm happy to answer questions, have discussions, and provide further information, like pro-choice websites and organizations.
Experience I have people close to me who have gotten abortions, I know the current abortion issues, and I have researched abortion in depth for a long time.
Question I am a very young business owner who recently found out I was pregnent. I
have come to the conclusion it is eaither my business or my baby. I belive I
am only in the 5th ot 6th week. I have made an apt with a local NAF
approved clinic. my apt is tomorrow. I have tried to educate myself on the
potential dangers. I belive the clinic will have choices for me. They are vague
on the phone. they have medical and pharmacudical.
I think the medical is the most effective and safest. I know i want to have
children in the future. now is just not the time. I feel stupid because i am
well educated, inteligent and I screwed up. My plan for the future is to take
advantage of the clinic's options for birth control. I dont have the flexability
to have insurance to cover all this but i read that the clinic has an
affordadable option for birth control (wish i read that three months ago).
I think i just need reasurance that this will be ok. It will be safe, I can have
healthy children in the future. And I can now take advantage of the
oportunity for a plan for this not happening again.
--oh yea. I have a very close family who is great. but it just so happens my
parents are in Europe for two weeks and I'm not sure if who or if i should tell
my mother after the fact. It seems wierd. Will she be mad that she couldnt
help, feel guilty. I know she would understand but it seems like it may be
unnecessary stress or anxiety for her. But I would also feel bad keeping
something like this from her.
Answer Hello :)
I'm not sure if you mean medical and surgical? Medical with the pills, surgical with the vacuum aspiration. In that case, I would say the surgical is more effective and safer. Although either way is very safe, since either a doctor is monitoring you, or you are. With medical (pills), sometimes not all the embryonic tissue is aborted (it's so small!) and you'd have to go and get a vacuum aspiration. But that's not a big chance. Whatever method you're most comfortable with is the right one, no questions asked.
Mistakes happen! And it sounds like you've learned from it, which is great. You don't want your kids to be "opposes'" or "mistakes." And birth control is a great thing to take advantage of. Sometimes it takes a bit of experimenting to find the right one (took me 3 tries).
Abortion won't effect your ability to get pregnant in the future, and it certainly won't have any effect on the kid(s). The only way you would be injured is if it was illegal, which it obviously isn't. The risks are small, abortion is one of the safest medical procedures, and thirteen times safer than carrying to term/giving birth.
Exactly. This happened, and now you know what do to, and won't have to have an unplanned child, which is usually not great for either party.
Tell her if you want, especially if you'd feel better. You'll just need to reassure her. There's plenty of women who do tell their mothers, plenty who don't. It's a very private thing, and it's your choice to share it. I hope everything goes well for you :)
