Expert: Tom Gamble - 11/15/2006

Question
allexperts, i am asking for practical reasons and think i have been placed into a pivotal position in a life and death matter,a pivotal position in a life and death matter
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reference:
what can someone say to a 33 year old social worker who was an only
child from a middle class background who is contemplating having an
aboriton due to career  conflict and  out of wedlock issues ? to talk her out
of it?
what if  i am a stranger who found out about the problem inadvertently?
what if she is resentful of my involvemtn?
if i told he raprnets and she is angry at that
shou di follow up and still send  people to contact her and talk her
out of it?
or will this ahve a paradoxical affect
i mean how will her anger towards me affect her diecision either way?  

Answer
There isn't an easy answer for this.  What I usually do is let someone who knows about it, deal with it.  Have her talk to a crisis pregnancy hotline such as 1-800-848-LOVE (also has a website at http://www.optionline.org/ ). I usually ask the person to hear both sides and get some advice before making a difficult decision, especially on their own.  The regret later for not having thought through the decision can be very painful.

Hope that helps.