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| need advice for myself and my sons. please help | 5/6/2008 | Azure |
Q: I have been in a relationship with boyfriend for three and half years. Living with him for one year. ...
A: you're a smart lady--we both know you should have left LONG AGO, but your low self-esteem, addictive ...
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| Has the end come? | 5/3/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am a 50 year old woman; mother of three grown children from my first marriage. Three years ago I ...
A: Valerie, Unfortunately this is the life these boys' parents have made for them, so, as I am sure ...
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| Has the end come? | 5/2/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am a 50 year old woman; mother of three grown children from my first marriage. Three years ago I ...
A: Valerie, you are right, this is your life, and you deserve to be happy. If you married this man ...
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| Am i virgin enough | 5/2/2008 | Azure |
Q: i was 15 and innocent about sex when my then boyfriend of 19 years started talking and doing sexual ...
A: lesson #1--each person is responsible for their OWN feelings; you can CHANGE how you react; as i ...
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| Am i virgin enough | 5/2/2008 | Azure |
Q: i was 15 and innocent about sex when my then boyfriend of 19 years started talking and doing sexual ...
A: you have to change your perception; a) you did nothing wrong..b) many women have early sexual ...
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| relationship confusion | 5/1/2008 | Azure |
Q: I am seeking some guidance on what to make of my current relationship. It is causing me great ...
A: consider this your life saving wake up call--you are in an abusive, addictive, unhealthy ...
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| Stuck in my head | 5/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Reading the other questions has helped remind me of the hardship I put up with and how blind we can ...
A: Alissa, The more intense the emotional interlocking of two souls, the deeper the sinking of ...
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| relationship abuse | 5/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: my boyfriend and i got in to a physical and verbal fight, and i left, he emailed me an apology ...
A: Heather, That last statement "or was he not thinking?(like all men don't)", is a generalization. ...
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| Toxic Relationship | 4/29/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I'm a 29-year-old professional and left an abusive/toxic relationship about four months ago. Since ...
A: Yes, Juno, I do have a bit of advice for you. I don't know why I hesitate to give it, though. ...
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| family member | 4/25/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I feel like a traitor for doing this, but I don't know what else to do. I can't really talk to ...
A: Neither does your sister deserve to be going through this. Abuse does not lighten because the ...
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| Relationship Problems | 4/23/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 months. We both left or marriages for each other. We ...
A: Rod, You are putting yourself at risk for some sort of breakdown. You see the picture clearly, and ...
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| Should I go back? | 4/22/2008 | Azure |
Q: I recently ended a three year verbally abusive relationship. My ex had a very physically abusive ...
A: it's over--goin back won't really help him, and will be the end of you; it will only service his ...
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| Hot Men Ugly Women | 4/22/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I've noticed something. I've seen that very very sexy men, such as those guys that are typically ...
A: Ana, I have an opinion, perhaps not the answer. A man who has been playing around, most likely ...
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| loving someone who has been abused | 4/22/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: my fiance was physically abused as a child by her mother and step father, although not sexually, to ...
A: Mike, Google the abused personality and you would gain deeper understanding into what is happening ...
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| Life after the abuse | 4/21/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am writing to you because I can't deal with this any more. I have tried to get over it and some ...
A: Mandy, the following story reminds me so much of your story. What you need, Mandy, is spiritual ...
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| my girlfriend was abused and i dnt want to lose her | 4/19/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: Well im in a relationship with a girl who was abused and rapped from her own father from age of ...
A: This girl can't be in a relationship with you right now. He view of relationships and what they mean ...
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| ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP | 4/18/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I,AM A 22 YEAR OLD FEMALE,WHO HAS BEEN IN A SIX YEAR RELATIONSHIP,AND WE HAVE A FOUR YEAR OLD ...
A: Shanna, This is ABUSE plain and simple. Both of you are abusive and it needs to stop. You say you ...
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| abusive ex-husband | 4/18/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I was in an abusive relationship for many years and I have been divorced from this man 4 years and ...
A: Tracey, the more we talk, the clearer the understanding. It seems that your ex-husband is ...
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| jealous fiance | 4/17/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I am 28 years old. I am engaged to a 33 year old man that I fell in love with immediately. I have ...
A: Charlotte, How unfair to your children that you would be willing to stay with a mentally unstable ...
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| abusive relation | 4/16/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have been married for 30 yrs...my husband has abused me physically, verbally & mentally. He has ...
A: What your family and friends think of you when you make decisions about your wellbeing is really ...
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| Unhappy | 4/15/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I am currently married and have been for 10 years. My husband and I have two children and have had ...
A: Beth, Of course you are unhappy. Who wouldn't be, living with the strain you are under. You say ...
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| relationship with a drug addict | 4/14/2008 | james52144@earthlink.net |
Q: I have been friends with and have been living a heroin and crack addict for almost a year now. He ...
A: The rule of thumb is to wait for one year of sobriety before you should expect an addict to be able ...
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| Mental/Emotional Abuse | 4/14/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have been married for 16 years. 2 years ago I had to go through breast cancer treatment. We had ...
A: Sage, it has been said that we do not have any experience we do not need. You had been enjoying ...
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| is my boyfriend abusive | 4/14/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He is my best friend and we usually have no ...
A: Krissy, It is abuse plain and simple. If cops would have been called for any of these incidents he ...
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| abusive ex-husband | 4/11/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I was in an abusive relationship for many years and I have been divorced from this man 4 years and ...
A: Let me respond to your last question, first, Tracey. He will abuse her if she allows it. He seems ...
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| How do you know? | 4/10/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I just have a simple question. How do you know when someone is abusive?
A: Eva, Look up the term, codependent. Here is an article I cut and pasted from the website, "Soul ...
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| being controlled | 4/9/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: I am 40 and still live with my mother and her ex-husband (they divorced but he never moved out). ...
A: sorry for taking so long to answer. You need to move out and get your place even if you have to ...
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| My sister and her abusive relationship | 4/8/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: My sister is repeatedly going back to her abusive boyfriend, and I have accepted that there is ...
A: Sarah, If I as a therapist heard this information while in the home I would report it. I would ...
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| emotional abuse/physical | 4/8/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have been in a realationaship w/ a man 10 years younger than me for 2 years. And we have ...
A: Monique, you go to the police right away. Do not play with one who threatens. Threatening you is ...
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| daughter in abusive relstionship | 4/3/2008 | Azure |
Q: About a month ago we found out that our 19 yr. old daughter is in an abusive relationship with her ...
A: no easy answers; you can try to perhaps ask the counselor and the daughter if you can be included in ...
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| Advice | 4/3/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I have been in my current relationship for almost four years. It all started well but now he is ...
A: Sally, You are not responsible for his erratic behavior. If you can't see that you need to leave and ...
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| Please help me.Reading this requires patience. | 4/3/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: "Please help me. My boyfriend of 2.5 years completed his graduation from abroad, then came back ...
A: it is never someone else's fault when someone changes. Changes in a person's life can affect his or ...
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| is it love or not | 4/2/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have been married to my husband just over a year now, but whenever he is annoyed/angry at ...
A: From what you are saying, Tracy, for your husband, divorce seems to be a ready option for resolution ...
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| James Please Help! THANK U!!! | 4/1/2008 | james52144@earthlink.net |
Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ...
A: I think he is highly immature and insecure. He doesn't have enough emotional maturity to recognize ...
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| Eugenia Please Help! THANK U!!!! | 4/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ...
A: Priscilla, Your companion evidently has unresolved issues, whether with himself, or with the mother ...
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| Dwayne Please Help! THANK U!!! | 4/1/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ...
A: Apparently, he's not over his ex and his heart has been broken by the whole ordeal. Also, in my ...
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| Pease hlep!!!! | 4/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: So I've been with my boy friend for a year and a half now and we seem to always fight about lots of ...
A: Codie, When I read your letter I googled, "Tolerating an abusive relationship". I was thinking, ...
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| I can't make up my mind. | 4/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Please help me. My boyfriend of 2.5 years completed his graduation from abroad, then came back ...
A: Gemi, This was your first relationship, and you, of course, wanted to make it work. You saw him, ...
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| Bi-Polar Ruined Marriage | 3/31/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Dr. Springer: I am a 31yof from an abusive childhood and suffering from bipolar disorder.When my ...
A: Sheri, We can live only one moment at a time. Fear would have us anticipate, and feel overwhelmed ...
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| I never received your reply | 3/31/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: I never received your answer...how do I find it?? Or, could you resend it?
A: alcohol destroys a person's sense of judgement. Often people who get drunk lose control over ...
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