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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Feeling Overwhelmed | 2/7/2012 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I've been married for 20 years to a man I've known for 25 years. I come from a family with ... A: I can see that you are at your breaking point and something needs to change. Verbal abuse, blaming ... | ||
| Making peace with the past | 2/4/2012 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: I'm 20, and currently in a relationship with a wonderful guy. I have pretty much everything I ever ... A: My apologies for the delay in getting to you. I didn't get the email notification of your question ... | ||
| Am I in an Abusive Relationship? | 2/4/2012 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: Okay, to start off I kind of get the idea that if I have to ask then the answer is yes, but still... ... A: Relationships can be very confusing especially being this young and trying to figure it out. First ... | ||
| Tired of the Anger and Unpredictability | 1/31/2012 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: I struggle daily with feelings of sadness, and confusion, when I am talking to or are around my ... A: When someone withdraws love in a relationship it is very destructive to the other person in the ... | ||
| Drinking turns violent | 1/31/2012 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I have met the sweetest, most caring, genuine man in the world. We met briefly at a party and he ... A: I am so sorry that you are experiencing such events in your life and know that you are feeling very ... | ||
| Caught doing it with my cousin. What should we do? | 1/24/2012 | Johnny St. Tai |
| Q: Here is a little back story. So, ever sense my cousin and I were little; we have always had a great ... A: What you have may be something very special- however, in this society it is seen as wrong and even ... | ||
| I HURT SO MUCH | 1/24/2012 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
| Q: With pain,agony so strong i prayed for death to take me.I begged for death as agony coarsed through ... A: Okay Tattianna, You have poured your feelings of pain out on paper, so you could confront your ... | ||
| abisve mom | 1/23/2012 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: let me say first my mom never hits me I want to be clear on that.look me and my bother got into a ... A: Like I said, your mother may have over reacted in what she said to you, but she did nothing illegal ... | ||
| abisve mom | 1/22/2012 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: let me say first my mom never hits me I want to be clear on that.look me and my bother got into a ... A: Although she may have over reacted, there is nothing here that would warrant you calling CPS. The ... | ||
| Got hit by my husband have ear drum perforation | 1/21/2012 | Nafeesah |
| Q: I married the person I fell in love with in college. It's going to be a decade that we've Been ... A: It's time to make some key decisions in your life I tell women who are in your situation that you ... | ||
| Left husband after charge of assault-spit on me and verbally abusive | 1/20/2012 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: My hubby and I got married in this past summer after I left him for the on-going issues. WE spoke, ... A: The thing about mental and emotional deficit is that it doesn't make sense. There are no nice boxes ... | ||
| Left husband after charge of assault-spit on me and verbally abusive | 1/20/2012 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: My hubby and I got married in this past summer after I left him for the on-going issues. WE spoke, ... A: What you are describing are games that every abuser plays. They behave badly, apologize, the victim ... | ||
| previous question | 1/8/2012 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
| Q: This is in response to your response to my critique of your initial response to my question. Did ... A: Erika, I just looked at my responses to letters addressed to me. I am not seeing a letter from you, ... | ||
| plz help me | 1/8/2012 | Dr.Sunu Sundar |
| Q: I'm a Punjabi im in love with my mother's father's sister's daughter and she loves me too......and ... A: Balwant, This mater needs deep discussion before any guidance.I suggest you to write to me in ... | ||
| How to know what is right for me?! | 1/5/2012 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I don't even know where to begin...I have always been abused sexually when I was younger and even ... A: Trish, You came into human existence for a reason. And in the problems you are having is the key ... | ||
| I do not know what to do... | 1/5/2012 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I am surprised I have actually found myself looking for this answer online but I do not know what to ... A: You are welcome and understand the process you are going through. I know it is tough but working ... | ||
| I do not know what to do... | 1/4/2012 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I am surprised I have actually found myself looking for this answer online but I do not know what to ... A: I am so sorry that you are experiencing such events especially when you have been dealing with them ... | ||
| brother in law tearing my sister and i apart | 12/29/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I have a very manipulative, immature, highly sensitive and easily agitated brother in law of almost ... A: Anytime pathological people are around, they have a negative impact on people. That is one of the ... | ||
| brother in law tearing my sister and i apart | 12/29/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I have a very manipulative, immature, highly sensitive and easily agitated brother in law of almost ... A: I understand how disturbing and painful this is for you and believe your question is where do you go ... | ||
| "professional victim" addict/alcoholic wife | 12/26/2011 | Nafeesah |
| Q: My wife and i are currently having some issues, mainly due to her severe mental problems and refusal ... A: If your wife has a drinking problem or any kind of substance abuse problem you can get your kids ... | ||
| Moving on from a bad relationship | 12/18/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: A few years ago I was in a relationship which somebody who was very controlling. He isolated me from ... A: Since I am a Life Coach specializing in abusive relationships and domestic violence education, I can ... | ||
| help | 12/17/2011 | Nafeesah |
| Q: my husband pushes my buttons to the point i yell. his voice is loud just talking so he easily over ... A: My apologies for the delay I am getting a lot of people writing in to me about various things ... | ||
| Constant Criticism: Is he right? | 12/17/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: I appear to be in an unsteady relationship and find myself feeling worse about myself. My boyfriend ... A: Criticism that isn't constructive is usually someone trying to get a message across that they can't ... | ||
| Scared of my reaction to boyfriend | 12/14/2011 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for the past two months with someone who is bipolar (or something like ... A: Myojin, Will he eventually stop coming by? It depends on what he is looking for. If he is looking ... | ||
| New Marriage | 12/12/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: I'm seeking your advice because my husband has just about had it with me not being able to let go of ... A: It is very difficult for victims of abuse to "just let it go". Most of the time, when victims have ... | ||
| love | 12/12/2011 | james52144@earthlink.net |
| Q: my friend aishwarya is in different kind of love. actually a year before aishwarya liked a boy but a ... A: The first thing to realize is that this entire relationship is an illusion. Your friend is in love ... | ||
| ? | 12/5/2011 | David Simonsen |
| Q: I live 4 hours from my boyfriend, Mike. He is 60 and I am 56. He will retire in June 2013. The ... A: Angie, Only you really know if he is worth the wait. With the information you have given me I ... | ||
| feeling tensed to approach to boy | 12/3/2011 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
| Q: sir, my friend meenakshi has a friend ravi whomshe know since 5 years . he is very good friend and ... A: Sudhir, From what you have said, Meenakshi seems to be a normal, virtuous girl. It is good that she ... | ||
| Nowhere else to go | 11/30/2011 | Nafeesah |
| Q: Over a year ago when I was 15 I started dating an older guy, Brent who is 27. When I turned 16 my ... A: Giving that you are from the Netherlands I don't know how they help people in your situation. My ... | ||
| mental abuse | 11/27/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I am A 28 year old female, and work in the dairy department at a Walmart in Ohio. Ever since The ... A: Since I am a Life Coach specialize in abusive relationships and domestic violence education, I may ... | ||
| My marriage | 11/25/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I am very unhappy, confused, feel unloved, alone,disillusioned, lost, in despair, etc. I am not ... A: I am very sorry that you are experiencing such events and sounds as if you need help to form a plan ... | ||
| Grandmother and guilt trips | 11/11/2011 | Johnny St. Tai |
| Q: For a long time my dad has been an alcoholic. The abusive kind, not the funny kind. Anyway over the ... A: Guilt is a funny thing- you're feeling it only because you believe there is guilt to be had. Your ... | ||
| help | 11/9/2011 | Nafeesah |
| Q: mam earlier i haved asked question also. i was in relationship for past 7 years.first we were very ... A: Here's what I am going to tell you please take this seriously.....people who are abusive tend to be ... | ||
| Should I Wake | 11/6/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: I have been married for 2 years and I am extremely unhappy in my marriage. I am thinking about ... A: Any physical abuse is serious and yes, this is physical abuse. Think of it this way....if he did ... | ||
| Am I In An Abusive Marriage? | 11/6/2011 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
| Q: I have been married for 2 years and I am extremely unhappy in my marriage. I am thinking about ... A: Alison, To answer your last question first, your husband's physical assault on you, yes, ... | ||
| Is My Marriage Abusive? | 11/6/2011 | Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence |
| Q: I have been married for 2 years and I am extremely unhappy in my marriage. I am thinking about ... A: Any intentional harm such as grabbing another by the arms and throwing them down, chocking them or ... | ||
| Abusive relationship what to do? | 11/6/2011 | Nafeesah |
| Q: I have been with my partner some 5 years now. We don't live together yet but he is asking. He has ... A: The minute a man raises his hand to you and has struck you it's a wrap on the relationship because ... | ||
| My Boyfriend is abusive and I don't know what to do | 11/4/2011 | Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. For months, things have been ... A: Your boyfriend has significant manipulation issues and is controlling you with them. Threats of ... | ||
| abusive | 11/3/2011 | Johnny St. Tai |
| Q: i was in a relationship with an abuser for past 7 years, left my bf by lying that i am now engaged.i ... A: Abusers abuse either to controll you, or to make themselves feel big. So when you no longer let them ... | ||
| Is he controlling? | 11/1/2011 | Johnny St. Tai |
| Q: I'm 39 single mother of one. I've been seeing my boyfriend for 8 months now. He doesn't like it when ... A: What you just wrote to me, send that to him- he's controlling and he needs to know what you're going ... | ||
Abusive Relationships
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Cathy Backlund, Life Coach in Abuse & Domestic Violence
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Expertise
Are you unsure if you are living in an abusive relationship? Are you feeling confused, angry or hurt and don't know what to do? I can help you determine if you are in an abusive or unhealthy relationship and provide suggestions on how to help you create a plan for your happiness and health and well being! Please ask questions to find out answers today! Everyone deserves to live life with happiness and joy and I am here to help you. Are you ready to find out how you can live a better and happier life? If you are, please ask your questions!!
Experience
I am a Certified Life Coach Specializing in Prevention and Education of Domestic Abuse and Violence.
Organizations
•SPARCC (Safe Place And Rape Crisis Center), Sarasota, FL
•CAT (Sarasota Violence Prevention Community Action Team)
•Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Publications
Please visit my webpage for more information and articles about abusive relationships and domestic violence at www.LifeCoachCathy.com or www.DomesticViolence-Education.com
Education/Credentials
•B.S. from Evergreen State College, Olympia, WA
•Core Competency Course from the Shelter for Abused Women and Children, Naples, FL
•Life Coach Training from Changepoint Coaching & Consulting Association
•Advanced Training from The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology
•Sexual Violence Core Training from Florida Council Against Sexual Violence
•High Risk Domestic Violence Training by Lundy Bancroft and Sarasota Police Dept, FL
•Court Assistance Training from SPARCC (Safe Place and Rape Crisis Center, Sarasota, FL
Principles of Prevention by The Centers of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)
Awards and Honors
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