About Dwayne Anderson Expertise I know much about abusive relationships as I have some with members of my family. Come to me if you need assistance with your relationship problems.
Experience Experiencing abusive relationships with family.
Expert: Dwayne Anderson Date: 1/20/2008 Subject: Is he abusive, or is he just angry?
Question Hi, thanks for taking time to read/answer this. I married my husband Jacob in July of 2007. Not that I think we argue more than any other couple adjusting to married life, but the way we react to anger is what is bothering me. I recently experienced a few things that have left me shocked and hurt. He told me "get your ass on the fucking bed", slammed me into a door, pushed me out of a chair, slapped my arm, closed a door on my face, locked me out of our house for about 20 minutes, pulled my hair, and drove off in our only car leaving me stranded at the house knowing I had to be at work and didn't have another way to get there,. granted this has all taken place over SEVERAL months, not all at once, and I have never been "hurt" by any of this. So I guess my ? is, when does it become abuse and not just fighting/normal anger? Do you think its already abuse? Also, I can’t help but wonder, what would be next?
Love to hear from you.
Thanks,
Concerned newlywed, 19.
Ps- I sure this will sound really petty, but here goes. I’m not a petite woman I’m about 5’ 11 and I’m not small. I wonder….if this is what you believe to be abuse, what will people think when they find out. I’m scared that I would get a response like this, ‘she’s a big woman who can defend herself.” Or “ She could stop him if she wanted to”
Answer this definately sounds like abuse. Abuse can come in several forms:
physical: what you're describing, which is basically when he hits you.
mentally: name calling
emotionally: saying things that make you feel hurt or worthless
sexual: rape or molestation
No one should ever be a victim of abuse.
Right now, it's best to talk to someone you know and trust, perhaps a friend or a family member and they can help you get on the road to recovery and security.
