About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
I can answer questions on psychics, mediums, paranormal phenomena.
Experience relationships, psychic readings, setting goals, meditation, tai chi, therapy, yoga, massage. neuro linguistic programming
Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question I will try to make this brief. My husband and I have been married for 17 years and together for 23 years. I met him when I was only 17 so...if you do the math, I am 40. It has never been smooth sailing for us. On more than a few occasions, we have said the word "separate" and now I am thinking about divorce. So many bad things have happened to me since I met him, both in and out of his control. The spectrum goes from his demeaning verbal abuse to an incident of sodomized rape. In 1997, I almost left him but he wooed me back with flowers, love notes and dates. Now that he is afraid I am going to leave again, the wooing has restarted. I am waiting to speak to a mental health professional but am so confused I need help....Help....any advice?
Answer Hi P. 23 years is a long time for both of you together.
Their maybe lots of things in the relationship that kept you staying in the relationship.
You need to make a choice, is this relationship worth saving, if the answer is yes then you need to have some terms clear if this relationship is to be save.
Have both of you committed to counseling, he need to sign a commitment agreement this will ask of him to taking responsibility for his role in having a better relationship.
If he does not follow through then you are getting the signs that your relationship together is not worth saving.
Do not take a simple yes, lets work at it only to see nothing change, follow through.
You deserve the best and it start with you loving you first.
