About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
I can answer questions on psychics, mediums, paranormal phenomena.
Experience relationships, psychic readings, setting goals, meditation, tai chi, therapy, yoga, massage. neuro linguistic programming
Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question I have been with my man for almost a year, on and off at the beginning. I feel like I am slowly losing what I loved about myself. I need to understand if this is controlling or is it me? we live apart, are in our late 30 and mid 40's. I have a cat, and he always states my house is so clean you would never know I had one..so today due to a problem my father said he had to get rid of a freinds new cat, I said bring her here and let me see maybe I will take her. I told him and he was not happy, said it's ur house but I will not have it in my life, I will not come over and have hair all over me and cats on the bed, I will not live that way. Also because I am outgoing he does not want me to go to casino, bar, away for work cuz my job calls for it. he says due to the way I am I am untrustable because I joke sexually at times, like 3-4 tiems in the past year that he knows about. he also has done alot more but with just this in mind, would that be controlling? or am I at fault?
Answer Hi Lisa, I a not sure I understand the problem.
Your friend is making his limits clear what he willing to tolerate when comes to a cat.
When he checks your emails it is you who is giving him permission.
Chang your email and let him know that some things are off limits.
Since it is a new relationship you need to make your boundaries clear as he is doing with you, you are teaching him what is acceptable with you.
Now you know that joking sexually is not working do not go there with him.
You are starting to allow another to control you, break the habits now before it is too late.
