About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
I can answer questions on psychics, mediums, paranormal phenomena.
Experience relationships, psychic readings, setting goals, meditation, tai chi, therapy, yoga, massage. neuro linguistic programming
Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question I feel that maybe i am being controlled and emotionally abused by my boyfriend. He had two children and he feels that they should be my priority. I care about them but I also care about my niece and nephew who I have always been very close with. They were the closest to having my own children. My boyfriend constantly is telling me that my niece and nephew are not my children and that I should be putting his children first. In my defense I have done alot for them. I help them with their homework, projects for school. I help plan their birthday parties and I also always make the favors for their birthdays. My boyfriend just feels that no matter what i do it is not enough to show that i care about them, and the minute my niece or nephew calls asking for advice he gets mad. There is so much more i could talk about in this relationship, he is very critical of me and no matter what i do he is always telling me that i do not make him my priority as well. I have broken up with him so many times over the last four years. We fight alot the minute he starts to criticize me or complain about my family. He says to me that they use me and i do too much for them and that they would never do anything for me. The last thing he said to me that i was difficult. Help me I am very depressed.
Answer Hi Dee, sorry for your difficulties.
The problem is not you the problem is your boyfriend.
You cannot be a mother for his kids they may already have a mother.
He wants you to take his place or his ex place, your boyfriend have problems with abandonment issues, it is not your problem.
You are being treated badly, and it is important that you trust yourself before it is to late.
As you said that no matter what you do it will never be good enough and that is true, it is his feelings that you are attempting to fulfill and forgetting yours.
If you or both of you do not get some help I do not see a great future for you.
Remember you teach others how to treat you by your way you conduct yourself.
You deserve better. God Bless.
