About Francis Hosein Expertise I can answer questions on relationships; marriage, abuse, controlling relationships, successful relationships, codependency, father and daughter relationships,
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Experience relationships, psychic readings, setting goals, meditation, tai chi, therapy, yoga, massage. neuro linguistic programming
Education/Credentials b.a. in psychology, therapist in NLP, degree in chi nei tsang massage.
medium for over twenty years. Tai chi teacher for 27 years.
Question QUESTION: hi
i am in troublue rite nw n hope u can jst giv som meaniful advice .
am in lov wid a guy n want to marry him .he is my batchmate in college .
he too is in lov wid me n confesses of great desire to marry me.
he is vry serious n if ever we hav had ne fights n in anger i walked out of the realtion, he is totally shattered n goes into depression.
i kno he is too much emotionally involved with me n dependent too.
his seriousnes was wat made me believe that we would live happily ...but recently i found somthin bout him..
i suspected that he was lying to me on certain occassions .i figured out that he was involved in sex chatting wid girls on phone .
wen i confronted him he made excuses lied to me ..
...i didnt do nethin as i hd no proove bt i was on lookout n did som spying on him..
i came to kno that he hd bn sex chatting wid a particular girl for two months ..n had decided for a one night stand.....bt i never let it happened n
i caught him red handed ...
on being caught he admitted his mistake n seeked forgivness. he also promised me he wont do it n it was a mistake n al that sorry things ..
i forgave n i continued wid him bt i realised that i wasnt comfortable wid him ne more so i ended the relation bt then he became al depressed n cried n begged me n asked me to give him another chance .
i do want to giv him a chance coz i am madly in lov wid him n somewhere deep down in my heart i kno he too loves me ..
bt wat is troubling me is that aftr confeesing so much about his seriousness how could he cheat on me ....
wat do u think i should believe such a man n marry him ??
he is also kind of addicted to porn sites n stuff..he admitted it to me n promises me to give away the habit aftr marriage ..is he speaking the truth ??
as far as i knew him in college he never had a bad past record .
he was a simple good charactered guy involved in hard working .
but i dnt kno recently wen we decided of getting married he is gone out of his head n is getting involved in sex whereever he can get ..i mean porn site masturbation n sex chat .
n i am not this type ..i mean sex n all before marriage..i am very simple n he too knows it ..bt nw i suppose he is nt like me ..
bt now shld i believe him for future??
wat type of a guy is he ??
want to tel u that he is very emotional n says he cant live widout me n even i hav felt the same many times its true ..ours is a 3 yrs relation n i kno he is mad for me ..
one thing more if ever i try to leave him forever he turns violent n hurts himself ..n ya recently he became abit abusive to me also ( i mean in both physical n verbal form ...in anger he did it ..this is the excuse he gave me later )
my prob is i love him too much n believes he too loves him but wat he did to me i am nt able to forget ..
please help
cathy
ANSWER: Hi Cathy, it is a difficult situation for you.
I understand that you have choices to make that will affect you for the rest of your life.
If you put you first then I would say to you that you did the right thing by breaking up.
If you are to get back together it is important to understand that your friend has a problem with sex (addict)and needs to get some counseling.
This would be part of your reasons to get back together otherwise it will only get worst with verbal and physical abuse.
Your friend needs to understand that he did something wrong and it will take some time before you trust him again and that means that he will have to put up with giving you proof when you ask for it until you can build the trust again.
If he really love you and want to be with you he will go through this to have you.
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QUESTION: hi
really thanks for helping me out..
bt i sometimes feels that the problem is in me .
i am not able to digest wat he did to me n am not ready to accept it also
i kno its al clear that i should leave him n is not trusthworthy but am too deeply inlove wid him .
i jst cant take him out of my mind if i stop talking to him n on other hand if i sart talking to him his past act of cheating on me haunts him ..iis gets difficult for me to be near a person who sex talked wid a girl for two months
who do i help myself ...am too serious for him
cathy
Answer Hi Cathy it would seem that you are determine to stay with this relationship.
If this is what you want then I suggest that you seek some help with your boyfriend in therapy.
You are ready to accept your boyfriend and what comes with it no matter what any one say to you.
My most important advice is to get help.
No one can talk you out of this relationship, although you know what you are getting yourself into.
You can CONTINUE with this relationship and protect yourself emotionally with therapy with counseling for both of you.
With every relationship break up, we all feel that we will not survive it with time, family support and therapy you can.
