AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
Organizations AAMFT;AACC
Education/Credentials B.A. M.S. Marriage & Family Therapy
Question With your advice, I managed to make the decision to leave and get on with my life. I went travelling and recently came back. I decided to see how he was doing as when I left he had started using heroin and crack again.
well within the last 7 months he has been in 2 relationships and is now in a serious relationship with someone who he has been going out for about a month and a half and he will be moving in with her.
It was great to see him, but weirdly i don't know, i didn't feel the same. i was happy to see him happy but i feel some of natural spark has gone and he seems to of aged a lot. But as a friend I worry that he is rushing into this and as his methadone is really high he's kind of sedated almost and sleeping a lot. he's only been 50 days clean and I want to support him (from a distance), but am worried what happens once he starts to lower his methadone again and starts to have cravings etc. could this end up with a relapse and maybe even ruin the relationship which will set him abck even further. with no 12 step program or counselling my question is can a person change only after 50days clean and can this relationship help him stay clean for good.
many thanks
and
Answer K,
You are starting to get caught up in the dance with him again. You are telling yourself you can handle it, but you won't be able to. He is a big boy. HE NEEDS to handle HIS ISSUES. You do not need to get re-involved with him. Doing so will cause you to lose out on any progress you have made in the last few months. He has support people and doctors and therapists etc...etc... that are helping him. He doesn't need a potential romantic interested clouding his judgement even further. You also don't need this clouding your judgement as well. Please continue to protect yourself not him.
David
www.help4life.net
