AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
Organizations AAMFT;AACC
Education/Credentials B.A. M.S. Marriage & Family Therapy
Question COUPLE MONTHS AGO MY HUSBAND AND I AND OUR TWO LITTLE BOYS MOVED INTO HIS PARENTS HOUSE TO TRY TO GET BACK ON OUR FEET AND THAT MY HUSBAND COULD GO BACK TO SCHOOL SO BETWEEN WORK AND SCHOOL I MAYBE SEE HIM A DAY AND A HALF FOR THE WHOLE WEEK IN THAT DAY AND HALF HE SPEND MOST OF HIS TIME PLAYING VIDEO GAMES AND GETTING INTO FIGHTS (I GUESS IT ALWAYS MY FAULT) I TRY TO MAKE UP BUT MOST THE TIME I GET SILENT TREATMENTS SO WE DON'T REALLY RESOLVE THE ISSUES. HE REALLY DOES NOT HELP THAT MUCH WITH THE BOYS HE WOULD RATHER PLAY VIDIO GAMES. HE NEVER TELLS ME HE LOVES ME OR KISSES ME. HE TOLD ME A COUPLE WEEKS AGO THAT HE DID NOT CARE IF I SLEPT AROUND HE DOES NOT THINK SEX IT THAT IMPORTANT!! HE CALLED ME SELFISH ONE TIME (I CANT THINK OF THE LAST TIME THAT I JUST HAD ME TIME OR SHOPPING JUST FOR ME) AND HE GOES AND BUYS A NEW GUN WHEN WE ARE HAVING MONEY PROBLEMS. AND HIS GRAND PARENTS ARE MOVING IN AND DEMANDS THAT I WATCH THEM ON 2 OF MY DAYS OFF (NOT GO ANYWHERE) OR I CAN LEAVE. !!! I DON'T MIND WATCHING THEM (AND ASK ME NICELY). BUT SOMETIMES I NEED TO GET OUT THE HOUSE AND A WEEK A GO I NEED TO TAKE MY ONE YEAR OLD TO THE DOCTOR SO IT WAS AROUND LUNCH TIME SO I GOT THE KIDS LUNCH AND HE GOT MADE AT ME FOR ME BEING GONE TO LONG.I JUST FEEL ALONE AND NOT WANTED
AM I MAKING THIS WORSE THAN IT IS?
Answer Rachel,
If what you describe is true, I would encourage you to move home to your parents or family. This is not a marriage. It seems like your husband wanted to move home so he could be closer to mommy and daddy. This will not change until he recognized his foolish behavior which sounds as if it is not going to happen anytime soon.
David
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