AboutEugenia Springer, Ph.D. Expertise I can answer your questions on how to stop being a victim, and/or how to stop being an abuser. My ability to help you, however, would depend on your willingness to assume full responsibility for helping yourself.
Experience From the 1970s to the present, my life has been a search after knowing my purpose, knowing myself, and knowing God. I talk about this search in my 2002 book, "Further Insights Into the Journey".
After years of teaching biology at university, I became a radio Family Life Counselor, and a newspaper columnist, responding to callers on radio, and replying to letters from the public, in the newspapers.
My book for the adolescent girl, "Girl, It's All About You"(Review & Herald Publishers 1980, and out of print) was my attempt to marry my field of training--biology, and my adoptive field--interpersonal relationships.
"Further Insights Into the Journey" is about my search for personal freedom--a search for freedom from external controls; for freedom from fear. Through very instructive experiences, many sorely trying, I uncovered that freedom within me, and found myself progressively experiencing increasingly greater measures of peace.
To get your copy of "Further Insights Into The Journey" email me at hftpproductions@tstt.net.tt.
Currently I am the host and producer of two weekly call-in radio programs. You can access our station online at www.power102fm.com. My programs are:
(1) "Life & Living/Soul to Soul", Wednesdays, 11:00 AM to 12:00 Noon; and
(2) DIALOGUE, Wednesdays 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM. DIALOGUE connects our national radio audience with our Trinidad & Tobago/Caribbean Diaspora, and other listeners beyond our shores.
Access Dialogue by going to www.power102fm.com from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM local Trinidad and Tobago time on Wednesday nights. Communicate with callers and studio personnel through our message board; or call any of the four telephone numbers listed: Toronto, London, Miami, and New York. Call through the number nearest you.
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Question It is almost 3 years since we have been divorced. He continues to harass me. My lawyer says i need to get a restraining order again, and that i need to go back to mediation to get a new parenting plan with less time for him, and then ask for child support increase. I am still afraid to do anything, as he threatens to use the legal system to take kids from me, or that he will get child support from me. I just so overwhelmed by his constant harassment and games (bringing kids late, badmouthing to kids, etc) i just don't know what to do. I also have been told to get rid of my lawyer and go pro per but afraid to do that too...any advice?
Answer I would have been better able to advise if I had some concept of the state of social services in your country. It seems to me that you need a Social worker to help you sort out all these issues. You must have had an experience that leaked your sense of power. And this leakage must have been in progress from way back for you to be so afraid. What he is allegedly doing is not good for the children, and could be sowing the seeds of dysfunctionalism in those dear young ones. Can you go to your social services and ask for a Social Worker. Tell this person everything. The state should have this sort of help available to you. They can then help present your case to the courts. But you have to present yourself as one capable of taking care of the children, Ask for counseling. You need to talk to someone in a trusting environment.
