Expert: David Simonsen - 11/22/2008

Question
How do end my relationship with my boyfriend who I helped quit using drugs ?? I still love him but I'm not sure if I am in love with him anymore.  I don't want to hurt him and cause him to use again. Right now we are living together and he will have nowhere to go if I break up with him and ask him to move out. What should I do??

Answer
Tiffany,
You are not the cause of someone using. It is up to him to make the choice to use or not. He should be in a 12 step program or some type of outpatient treatment program. If he isn't then he has probably only been clean because it gets him a place to stay and a warm body at night. You should give him some notice so he can be prepared for the moving out. I have a question for you, why is it that you chose to date someone that uses?
David
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